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Would you expect a loved one to change for you? Would you change yourself for them?

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Modifying ones personal image or habits for someone else doesn't constitute change. It constitutes obedience. There is no need for euphemisms, no need for saying "Please change this for me". It is merely a condition. Obey me. And changing oneself in order to achieve more love, more favor, is again just a condition. I will do this - and then you will obey me by giving me what I want. The failure to recognize this peculiarly human habit is yet another symptom of self-imposed slavery, the complete opposite of willed change.
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Posted Aug 19th, 2009 at 9:07PM
I think everyone should try to improve themselves.
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Posted Aug 19th, 2009 at 9:07PM
No and no. If I loved them I would accept them for who they are and if they loved me that would have to do the same in accepting me for me.
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Posted Aug 19th, 2009 at 9:07PM
Yes, I can change myself if it makes her happy. Anything for my love.
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Posted Aug 19th, 2009 at 9:07PM
No way, if you love them, you love them for them... not how u want them to be, and vice versa......

If someone needs to chnage before u love them, then u dont really love them, the real them....
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Posted Aug 19th, 2009 at 9:07PM
I wouldn't do neither Theres no reason to chnage they either love you for you or not... But if they dun wanna change thats fine dun mean i wouldnt like them any less especially if i do love em... I will love em no matter what!
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Posted Aug 19th, 2009 at 9:07PM
No and no. If they are a "loved" one, they already accept you and vice versa. Unless their are bad habits involved, like drinking or drugs or ****, etc., no change is needed.
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Posted Aug 19th, 2009 at 9:07PM
If it was annoying habits then yes i would talk to them and ask them to change that habit, and i would do so for them if they asked,
But not a major change as we accept our loved ones as they are.
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Posted Aug 19th, 2009 at 9:07PM
Not realy. I might change some things for a lover like shaving body hair etc dressing a certian way for them once in a while but I wouldn't change the way I think.
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