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Would you rather choose the one you love (but didn't love you back) or the one who loves you (you don't love)?
Just wanted what everyone thinks. =) would you go for the person who you love but didn't even reciprocate the feelings you have for him/her, or would you go for somebody who loves you too much and is willing to wait for you to love him/ her back?
Posted 4 months ago
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neither. A relationship with either of those would be unfulfilling.
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Posted Sep 5th, 2008 at 9:12PM
I would introduce the one I love (but doesn't love me) to the one that loves me (but I don't love). Then I would forget about both of them and do something fun.
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Posted Sep 6th, 2008 at 4:54AM
Ooh, tough choice but I think I'd rather have the one who loves me but I don't love him back.

I actually have someone like that in my life right now but we're great friends and he understands that as long as I'm with my fiance, nothing can happen between us.
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Posted Sep 15th, 2008 at 8:54PM
As long as the realationship that was going on was healthy/not damaging I could go either way on this one. In my current realatioship he waited for me to love him back but we got along great. Now I am waiting for him to be ready for marriage and we still get along great.
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Posted Sep 5th, 2008 at 9:12PM
Neither relationship is good....given the choice, I would go with the third option - staying on my own. Being in a relationship with someone that doesnt love you is unfulfilling and would leave you insecure - being in a relationship with someone you dont love is unfair on them.
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Posted Sep 15th, 2008 at 8:56PM
neither because i still have my self esteem... choosing between the two means that there's something wrong with my head... it was said that we fall in and out of love many times in our lifetime... the best option is to wait for the right person to come my way
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Posted Sep 5th, 2008 at 9:00AM
I would choose the one that loved you but it would probably depend on your personality. You would have to like the person and care for them but I would personally feel I was wasting my time waiting for a guy to love me, like it was never gonna happen. I am way to insecure for that!
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Posted Sep 5th, 2008 at 9:40AM
seeing as i was always the one who loved, i'd like to be on the other side of the fence for a change. maybe the grass isn't greener on the other side, but i'd like to see for myself for once.
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Posted Sep 5th, 2008 at 1:13PM
it all depends. i have had the experience both ways.
i held on to the one who loves me and it didnt pay off too well.. and then also held onto the one i loved... that too
so all in all.. i dunno, i guess whichever way fate next takes me!
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Posted Sep 5th, 2008 at 1:21PM
I would definately go for the one who loves me. Being in a relationship where you love and pour your heart and soul into only to get nothing back is torture. The person who loves you will treat you well, and you never know, maybe I would grow to love him in time.

Note: This is only if I HAD to choose. Really both options would suck. I just think it would be the lesser of two evils.
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Posted Sep 6th, 2008 at 1:54AM
the one who loves you bc after a while you'd fall for the person
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Posted Sep 6th, 2008 at 10:22AM
I am in this situation right now, I love him and he does not love me back, so I know what that feels like so I would rather take the other, because I know I can be here and not love him but be civil with him and go on living.
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Posted Sep 6th, 2008 at 11:31AM
I would like to choose one who loves me. I will try to love the man after that. I know I can.
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Posted Sep 6th, 2008 at 3:57PM
There should NOT be a choice, between 2 people, Because it is NOT fair or ethical to choose between people, when it comes to LOVE. The "ONE WHO LOVES YOU(YOU DONT LOVE), will more than likely end up hurt for NO reason. And he/she is in the position, that you apparently are in with 'THE ONE YOU LOVE(BUT DIDNT LOVE YOU BACK). PUT THE SHOE ON THE OTHER FOOT AND MAKE YOUR CHOICE THEN.
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Posted Sep 6th, 2008 at 4:27PM
To quote,C.S.N.&Y
If you cant be with the one you love,
love the one your with.
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