ask her what she likes......include her in the preparation...fun family time ....even if it takes longer ;-)
Red New Potatoes - lot's of garlic
Banana Pudding for desert.
do what you can do. it shouldn't have to be a big thing. Just make it special and have a great time.
What about an all hors d'euvres dinner!? Cheese platter, veggie platter, pigs in a blanket, mini-meatballs, sausage/cheese balls, etc. Your daughter could help you prepare it and you could make just the amount you need, plus easy clean up. Also, get you some sparkling grape juice or something fun to drink (non-alcoholic) and drink from fancy wine glasses (glass or plastic)...in other words, your own little cocktail party. You could even dress up or put on comfy pjs...light candles...play christmas music or movies....I might just do this myself!
Make her favorite meal, let her choose it. I'd do it even if it was something like spaghetti.What matters is having fun together at mealtime and smiles for her all day long.
Tacos, beans and rice. is an easy dinner.
I agree with deltadon. Don't worry so much about the menu as long as you have a good time. Play music, make stuff together, do things together. That's whats important. :)
So many people I know stress out on the holidays. It shouldn't be that way. Let it go. Have fun and do what you can. Don't worry about what you can't anymore.
I would say to not get hung up on what is traditional. Think about the kinds of foods you can manage and what foods are your daughters favourites. That is something only you can answer. Once you choose what to do you should do as much preparation the night before. I will be preparing all my vegetables on christmas eve so I can spend more time with my children. If you try to do these things you should both enjoy yourselves, it will be less stressful and you will get to spend more time together. It sounds like they are all things you need.
Hope you have a lovely day whatever you do