Why would you think that is selfish? He told you so?
If you truly think so... perhaps you can make an image of him in your mind. I have done this with several of my friends that I don't talk to anymore, they remain as living memories but they don't interfere with my present.
It's okay, you're both gaining experience for the future.
Man...That guy so totally dropped the ball
Like he lost a great gig ,sort of like accidentally finding a million dollars in the sand at the beach.
Because of your feelings. They're not half boiled, they're genuine the real thing!