You live in a sexless marriage and get the opportunity to have cybersex. Would you consider this cheating?

I would ask my spouse why the **** we're in a sexless marriage.

Would you be upset if your spouse engaged in it behind your back?

Would your spouse feel betrayed or upset?

If your answer to either of those questions is yes, then Yes it's cheating.

I am in a sexless marriage, I have had cyber sex with another woman. It might only be in my mind and words on a screen. But it is cheating.

I guess I am unusual in my answer.. imagine that. But, I happen to think if its not touching in any form, its probably okay. So what if you are fantasizing... okay so tell me no ones ever did that before?

If you are dreaming up some fantasy with Brad Pitt then having sex with your man thats the same to me.
And if you have watched **** then its the same as phone sex.
I dont expect anyone to agree, but just because you have an opinion doesnt mean everyone should agree with you either.
Of course, there can be other boundaries, but for me thats the big thing.

Every marriage has to find what works for themselves and say screw it to everyone else. Youre the one who has to lay in bed with your own conscience at night.
No one can live your life and make you happy for you.
But in order for you to find what works I guess you would need to be discussing with your partner.

So all you uptight people think ************ is cheating. Wow. What are the sexless married people suppost to do?

Yes, it is cheating. A very sad and pathetic form of cheating, but isn´t cheating always sad and pathetic ?

Yes I would. You're using another person to achieve sexual satisfaction, so essentially you're cheating on your spouse. The fact that you're in a sexless marriage is just a side issue.

If you are in a sexless marriage; have you considered you are the problem?

People who claim to be in relationship like that, never ask themselves if they are the reason for not getting laid.

So, before you go off being a ***** (cyber of physical) examine that.

P.S. Phone and cyber sex are the most ridiculous things ever. Go get ****** if it means that much to you.

Anything outside of marriage that is sex, cyber, oral whatever is cheating as well as emotional attachment to another person other than your spouse, is also cheating. sorry~

Yes you are not being faithful to your spouse. I do not refer to it as cheating because this implies that you are cheating them out of something. If you live in a sexless marriage than you are not cheating your spouse out of sexual favors or attention. But you are not be faithful to them by engaging in such activity. Yes I have, desperate people do desperate things and I would much rather fail here than in the real world where the consequences can be catastrophic for everyone involed.

It seems to me that marriage requires making Promises to the Future which are surely morally and even logically uninforceable. Even if both parties enter the contract in good faith it is unimaginable that they can bind themselves to have certain feelings in the future. Better to just take it day by day and be together out of free choice. As to cyber sex it would seem something best covered on a daily basis between the parties involved. I would not want to be in a relationship the rules of which were laid down possibly years before. If the parties discuss having cyber sex then no cheat has happened. If they are bound by rules set by someone else - whoever married them - and cannot change the rules then that is a recipe for unhappiness from which cyber sex would just be a relief.

To me the definition of whether it is cheating has to do with the emotional connection.

-************ and thinking of a celebrity is not cheating.
-************ while thinking about the handyman is not cheating.
-************ while the handyman watches is cheating even if he never touches you.
-************ in a booth while a ******** dances is not cheating.
-************ while talking to a stranger on the phone is not cheating.
-************ while talking to someone you know and have developed an emotional relationship is probably a form of cheating.

The biggest test of whether it is cheating is would you still do it if your spouse knew? Would they disapprove?

Yeah, I think it's cheating. But, if you are in a sexless marriage I think it is a safe alternative to actually meeting with someone and having actual sex. Emotional affairs are way worse than sexual affairs.

Yes. Of course having sex with somoene outside of your marriage/relationship would be cheating.

I think that Mello answered this perfectly.

Yes, but it's only wrong if she's doing it, not if I am.

Do I really believe this... the world may never know >:-)

Any sexual or emotional intent with or toward another is adultery. As annoying as it is living this way, I wouldn't seek anything from someone else.

I would consider it cheating yes.

definitely not I wouldnt consider it cheating, but at the same time if the marriage is so bad instead of cyber sex shouldnt you be trying to get your partner to work out the problems in your relationship? I think Id rather be doing that and trying to get intimate with my partner than having virtual sex with a random on the net, and I never could quite understand how someone can get off typing on a com!