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Your best friend is still friends with someone who hurt you and your friend very deeply. What do you do?

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4 Answers to "Your best friend is still friends with someone who hurt you and your friend very deeply. What do you do?"

  1. likeliness - 41-45 years old - female

    Posted by likeliness Nov 7th, 2012 at 5:51AM

    Accept it for what it is. Not everyone reacts the same to every situation. As long as she still treats you with respect you should appreciate the forgiveness they have in their heart.

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  2. RollingFish - 22-25 years old

    Reply by RollingFish Nov 7th, 2012 at 5:54AM

    What if the friendship between them both is dangerous?

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  3. likeliness - 41-45 years old - female

    Reply by likeliness Nov 7th, 2012 at 6:02AM

    All you can do is voice your concerns and then move on. As a friend you don't want to see th get hurt but you can't stop it. So you have to decide if this is something you can support or if you have to create some distance for your own sanity. I have had to do this and I just quietly pull back and check in on the person periodically so they know I am still there for them.

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  4. Oasis1010 - 41-45 years old - female

    Posted by Oasis1010 Nov 7th, 2012 at 5:34AM

    Friendship is about freedom. So let her or him be.

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  5. RollingFish - 22-25 years old

    Reply by RollingFish Nov 7th, 2012 at 5:35AM

    If you think so. I don't know what I'd do. It would really depend on the situation.

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  6. oncemoor - 41-45 years old - male

    Posted by oncemoor Nov 7th, 2012 at 5:33AM

    Let it go or cut them both loose. It really is that simple.

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  7. RollingFish - 22-25 years old

    Reply by RollingFish Nov 7th, 2012 at 5:35AM

    True, true. But I'm sort of seeing a third option here.

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  8. oncemoor - 41-45 years old - male

    Reply by oncemoor Nov 7th, 2012 at 5:41AM

    I agree.. Good lesson to learn here is concentrate on who you want to or don't want to forgive and let other people make that option for themselves as well. It will save you many friendships in the future. Though I have noticed that woman are less able to do this then men, woman really do seem to have a need to have the whole group turn on a person.

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  9. martinb01 - 51-55 years old - male

    Posted by martinb01 Nov 7th, 2012 at 5:32AM

    Nothing - They're big people and it's not their argument it's yours. You cannot expect people to take sides that's unfair.

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  10. RollingFish - 22-25 years old

    Reply by RollingFish Nov 7th, 2012 at 5:33AM

    What if the friend also hurt them? *grins* Course, this is hypothetical.

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  11. martinb01 - 51-55 years old - male

    Reply by martinb01 Nov 7th, 2012 at 5:34AM

    Again it's up to them! They have a head on their shoulders! All you can do is keep your own counsel. If they ask you for advice make sure it's impartial.

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