Your man say he feels great pressured at work and will break down if he has to sort out a day of surprise for your bd ..
He is under great pressure from all direction at work. Its your birthday and he missed it. So you ask him to arrange a day of surprise (i.e. he arrange where we go where we eat, not a big party!) in two weeks time (which happends to be the anniversay).
come the weekend. He says he has been under huge pressure at work and if you insist on him to arrange a day of surprise he will break down.
What would you say or do? Be understanding? or thinks he is putting you at the bottom of his pile?