My Married Daughter Has Disowned My Husband and I

O k here I go - My husband and I have 2 children the youngest is our son 24 and the eldest 28 she is our daughter.  Our daughter has been divorced and has a little boy that is 5. She since has remarried and has a little girl 1yr and one on the way.  Before she got married she decided not to marry but my son and I talk to her and her furture husband and told them about cold feet.  Anyways they got married.  Our son came home from the military where he had gotten into some trouble and my husband and I had helped him out and not on one occasion either.  Any ways.  After she gave birth to her second child she seemed to get distance from us.  My husband and i bought a home about 1mile away.  She said she wanted near so we could help her out at times.  We agreed finding out that she would tell her friends that she didnt want us near.  Humm! were confused.  Any how - near Easter she stated she wanted to do her own family thing.  thinking we were family we would be togher sometime during that day.  Instead our son was at her house and they had easter togher and then my daughter and her husband went his parents house.  Ok - later that evening around 6:30 we were contacted and said we could visit.  We went - well!  she held our granddaughter in herarms and the proceded to leave the room leaving feeling very uncomfortable.  After a while we just left.  I was really hurt. My daughter and her new husband wanted to be remarried in the catholic church.  My husband and I were summoned by the church to speak to the priest about her first marriage.  When we walked in the priest told us that it wasnt going to happen no matter what.  We both were shocked.  We answered all the questions asked.  After the meeting he called our daughter and told her that it was our fault that they couldnt be married in the church because or stories clashed.  Which was false it was because the Millitary Caplin who married them in her first marriage signed on the wrong line. Who knew a priest would lie.  So at that point it just got worse.  Our daughter text my husband and stated he was no longer alowed to visit.  I received a letter 1 week from mothers day stating what a crappy mother I was and how I jilted her on life and all she ever had to do was chorse and she didnt have a normal childhood.  She traveled and we spent money on her and our son - Basball, soccer, music lession, twirling, band,girlsouts, disney land and world, euro disney, Paris, Jamaca, bike riding etc.  She always had birthday parties and even if she was punished for anything she still had the opportunity to go out and have friends and have a good time.  She would tell people in school that my husband and I were getting a divorce which was never true.  She brought kids into my home where they stole things and she has lied to me about a lot of things.  But yet I supported her and bought her 1st, 3rd cars for her and I paid for 2 weddings with no help from either of her husbands.  I paid for baby pics she has most of my furniture we even helped her move and paid for the uhaul as well.  Oh yea!  I even gave her ten thousand $ for a home for her and her husband and family.  So, I am so confuse to why she would do such a thing.  I know our son has done some awful things to us but he has always repaid his dept even if it was taken the wrong way.  Our son didnt know how to get us back together.  he told us that she was reguard her in laws as her parents now.  So he got fed up so he took a check from her hoping that she would come to me and confide in me and hopeful that we would be a family again.  But, it did work out that way.  he has since then given the money back.  My husband when there the past weekend and tried to speak to her and she cried and asked if mom (me) had sent him.  he stated no which I didnt.  But, she told him that she didnt want anything to do with us and she was done with the family and that she resented us.  I am so depressed and lonely I miss her so much. She was a part of me and we shared so much.  She denies everything we once had bad, good and indiffrent.  Please help me get through this I need help all I do is cry and my heart hurts so much.

Thanks for your help in advance.