All Alone

To Sinnona, Iam also a widow and feel your pain. Iam now 59  and have been alone for almost two years. Ihave kept our house but feel overwhelmed trying to keep up with it all and working full time. I have two grown daughters but basically am by myself trying to figure it all out. I tend to worry about everything I guess because Ihave no one to share it with. I am not interested in dating  but admit I'm lonely. Ifeel like everyone else has a life and I'm just going through the motions. I know I'm not clinically depressed but Ifeel like Ireally need some happier times in my life. How about you?

Roey Roey
6 Responses May 8, 2009

I too am a greiving widow. My husband of 7 years died from sudden cardiac death on May 26th 2012. Not only was he my husband, but also my best friend.I feel so lost without him. I really dont know what to do. I have two grown children and dont want to burden them with my grief. But I have decided to move in with my younger daughter until I can get my self together. I am a LPN an have started my second job in less than 1 months. I have never felt this much hurt in my life. And pray that somebody can honestly tell me it really does get better.

I am sorry about your loss ! But hope the life ca turn sweet again if you take interst There are so many around you Look up and join the life stream again Dont be dis hearted !

I'm in the same boat, more or less. My husband of 14 years died on Valentine's Day from liver cancer diagnosed 6 months prior. I don't have any kids. I am alone except for my pets. My husband's daughter has her family with a grandbaby on the way for her. She has grieved for her father but she has joy to look forward to with a grandbaby on the way. I don't feel needed by them and sincerely do not believe they would miss me when I'm gone. As a musician, my husband was loved by many people but after he died, it was as if I never even existed. My only friends were his friends and now that he's gone, so are they. I'm 59 y/o and do not expect to find love again in my life. I have looked at dating sites and the prevailing theme is sex, which I have no interest in. My husband was impotent from medical causes for years but that never even once changed the way I felt about him. But our love was never about having sex, though the sex was good back in the day when it was. Now when I look at dating sites just out of curiosity to see what people are out there, it seems that the only thing men really want is sex. I just don't have that desire. My desire is to have a companion that enjoys the same things I enjoy, music, nature, closeness, simple pleasures. I've come to the conclusion that I am never going to find that kind of companionship in this life again. I am ready to give up. I plan to put whatever energy I can find into cleaning up the mess that is left behind and hopefully not leave that for someone to come behind me. I'm not thinking of suicide but I just don't have any motivation to live on. When death comes, I will be grateful.

I know how you feel, although I do have 2 kids,my husband died 8-1-2011 of a massive heart attack, I too, have no desire to be on this earth, just want to be with him, am prepaying my funeral now so that my son and daughter won't have to worry about it, not going to kill myself but I have just given up on living, nothing seems worth doing anymoe,I do not care if I eat, sleep or whatever I just want him back,I do not think I can ever be happy again,but I have to try to keep going and thats what your husband would want too. We widows have to try to make our husbands proud and one day we will be with them again

i am a grieving widow. My husband used to proudly say, "We've been married for 31 years." And now he.s gone... and i miss him terribly! And I am also very lonely without him! i have adult children, but they have their lives to live, as it should be!

My heart goes out to both of you. I feel much like you both do. My precious Husband's doctor, DELIBERATELY took my Husband's life on Nov. 24, 2004 and now what?<br />
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God Bless You Both<br />
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Feel free to write to me anytime.

i am so sorry to hear about your loss... i've had a rough weekend with my grieving process.. i've been in a leadership course through my church and over the past year, we've been learning about leadership and where do i see God's placement for me in the church.... as soon as my friend and pastor asked us where do we see God placing us, my immediate response was, to listen to the peepl in my church who have any issues surrounding loss or grieving.. in some way... i'm in the immediate process of starting an online course in counseling... i've experienced many grief's in my life, and i have a compassionate heart and try to be an active listener... isn't it nice to know that you're not alone in this?.. it's eases me in knowing i'm not the only widow and not alone in my sufferings.. i too have two children.. my son is 15 on may 12th, and my daughter is 13... i've been a widow for 12 years, and i still sit and cry and grieve for my husband.... i just turned 40, but i'm 40 alone.. my husband will never be or grow old with me and my life has never been the same since the day we found him dead, in 1997....i would love to continue to talk to you.. and if you would like to continue to share your story with me, i'm a good listener and i won't give you advise unless you ask for it.. God bless you my dear, and hope to hear from you again soon..<br />
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