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The "me Too" Club

Hi Friends. So sorry for the incredible loss you all feel. This is a lousy club to be in. However, talking with people and sharing experiences does help. I'm 50 and lost my husband 2 years ago after 26 years of marriage. It's still tough, and while I keep busy during the days, nights are long and lonely and I think too much. I'm don't feel like the same person I was 2-3 years ago, and haven't figured this new one out yet! Thank you all for sharing your stories. They are all painful to hear, and even though each of our experiences is unique, it does help to know we are not alone.

PaulaDi PaulaDi 46-50, F 4 Responses Dec 7, 2009

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i LOST my husband in july 2012. i too try to keep busy during the day and nights are long and all i do is cry. I dont know how to smile anymore and if i do it is not real. I go to counseling once a month but doesnt do much. i was married to my husband 18yrs. he was my rock. I am in that anger stage and i think i always will be.

I am so sorry for your loss toohonestman. It is 2 years since I posted the story you commented on, and 4 years since my husband passed away. Life is better for me now, my head and heart clearer. But it is a long journey. My best advice - be kind to yourself, patient with yourself, and take care of yourself while you learn how to live life without the other person. Talk to others, even on line (sometimes that's better) about how you feel. There are support groups out there with people who understand what you may be experiencing, and sometimes I found it easier to talk to strangers on line who were going through a similar hard time than to continually burden family and friends with my depression. Time does heal. You may always have moments when you are sad, and feel the loss of your wife, but it will become only one part of yourself instead of feeling like all there is, as it does now. My best to you.

I am so sorry for your loss toohonestman. It is 2 years since I posted the story you commented on, and 4 years since my husband passed away. Life is better for me now, my head and heart clearer. But it is a long journey. My best advice - be kind to yourself, patient with yourself, and take care of yourself while you learn how to live life without the other person. Talk to others, even on line (sometimes that's better) about how you feel. There are support groups out there with people who understand what you may be experiencing, and sometimes I found it easier to talk to strangers on line who were going through a similar hard time than to continually burden family and friends with my depression. Time does heal. You may always have moments when you are sad, and feel the loss of your wife, but it will become only one part of yourself instead of feeling like all there is, as it does now. My best to you.

My wife died 4 months agao. I know what it's like. I feel so empty.

tell me about it my husband died almost 4 months. will it get better. NO i dont believe it. will i stop crying everyday yes i believe that but better noo. there is noone out there t hat can replace my husband ever ever.