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I A Recent Widow

I Dont Know Who I Am

By: sparkyrat
Written on April 5th, 2011
My husband of 27 years died unexpectedly in november.He was only 45. My life totally changed from being astay at home, agoraphobic housewife and mom to having to be a breadwinner and the one who takes care of everything.Of course I took care of everyone but myself before but now its so scary. I dont have friends to talk to as we were such a couple that we did everything together I recently got sick with pnemonia and its got me to thinking Now I have no idea who i am or how I am supposed to be, and no idea how to find out.
By: sparkyrat
Age: 46-50 , Female
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  • lostoneormore
    lostoneormore

    I am truly sorry for your loss, starkat. I can relate to you because I lost my husband of 14 years in Feb. He had cancer diagnosed 6 months before his death. I have no children and he was my whole world which I didn't realize until he was gone and now I too am faced with finding out who I am without him in the world. I can tell you that at almost 5 months now, I am still deeply grieving and it is not easy even with no children to care for. It may even be harder in the sense that I only have myself to lean on or to talk to or to face each day...myself and this sorrow. I can tell you that I have found a lot of supportive people who know what we're going through at a group

    http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/WidowNet/

    you will have to sign up but there are lots of caring and supportive widows there who will welcome you with open arms. HUGS and peace to you.

    Jul 8, 2011
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