My Experience..

I know how you feel , not being able to leave , not knowing why you can't do it when they treat you so bad . I have been with my partner for over 9 years , and he has been abusive from the start it was mental abuse to start with then when he new he could control me had beaten me down that's when he started the physical abuse it's not all the time like the mental abuse but when it's physical it's bad , he kicked me in the stomach so hard that I could not feel my legs and could not breath or scream for help that gave him time to think bout what he would do next and he sat on me and smashed my head of the floor repeatedly I did not have the breath in my body to beg him to stop , I could feel my eyes rolling back in my head I thought I was going to die that night . It was my 2year old son at the that time that stopped him all the noise had woke him he was sat on the stairs watching this man beat his mommy I truly believe my son saved me and it breaks my heart that over the years my son has had to save me meny times . Even after all these times of being beaten driven in to and dragged down the full length of my street trying not to get dragged under his car I still married this man gave up my home my job and allowed him to take me and my son away from our family I have nothing now I'm lost trapped and feel dead inside most of the time I wish I was dead . Please please find a way to leave you man . Your still young no one desevers to be treated like that don't let him take your life away

i know how u feel hun my ex was exactly the same he use to abuse me physically sexually emotionally and verbally i went through it for 10 months before i had the courage to leave him and i am pressin charges and hes makin my life hell still tryin to get me to drop the charges i hope it gets better and justice will be done so i can move on and get my life bk as at the moment with everythin he is doin he is still controllin my life and makin me ill its like im trapped still i found that talkin on womens aid help me maybe u should try it and i hope u r ok and if u ever need someone to talk to im here to be honest i need someone to talk to as no one knows how i feel they havent been through it and dont understand

well hope tp here from you soon

You are not ugly, you are a strong women to have put up with everything you have and still be alive. Many Phyiscally abused women die for the abuser. Remember that you are strong that you can do whatever want. I am right there with you. he just hasn't started hitting me yet. I know it will happen one day but that still doesn't give the strength to leave. I understand. I am her for you. remember that you are not alone there is someone out there. There are resources for you to get out, when you are ready. Just remember what he says about you isn't true. That is his way of controlling you. He tells you that you are fat and ugly and worthless so you won't leave so you will think that no one will have you. Remember that. None of it is true that is just how he controls you. Find ways to get around it. Become creative with ways to get around his control. It is a big world out there, there is ways to hide stuff. Like this for example, does he know that you tell the world about how he treats you? NO he doesn't. Be creative if you have a job, lie about hours that you have work, find a tribe (support group, people at work) and build that tribe, let that tribe make you strong. it will not always be like this, there is a end, There is a light at the tunnel. Just remember he can't know what you are doing all the time. It's impossible. trickery is you best bet to survival. I hope you take these words to heart because this is how i survive and it works. BE CREATIVE, you are strong, and beautiful and smart. Even if he never tells you that. There has to be something great about you, he wants to destroy it right? so there has to be something there that makes he insecure. Find it, use it, do not be scared you already at rock bottom what do you have to lose. I wish you luck comrade.

You are not ugly, you are a strong women to have put up with everything you have and still be alive. Many Phyiscally abused women die for the abuser. Remember that you are strong that you can do whatever want. I am right there with you. he just hasn't started hitting me yet. I know it will happen one day but that still doesn't give the strength to leave. I understand. I am her for you. remember that you are not alone there is someone out there. There are resources for you to get out, when you are ready. Just remember what he says about you isn't true. That is his way of controlling you. He tells you that you are fat and ugly and worthless so you won't leave so you will think that no one will have you. Remember that. None of it is true that is just how he controls you. Find ways to get around it. Become creative with ways to get around his control. It is a big world out there, there is ways to hide stuff. Like this for example, does he know that you tell the world about how he treats you? NO he doesn't. Be creative if you have a job, lie about hours that you have work, find a tribe (support group, people at work) and build that tribe, let that tribe make you strong. it will not always be like this, there is a end, There is a light at the tunnel. Just remember he can't know what you are doing all the time. It's impossible. trickery is you best bet to survival. I hope you take these words to heart because this is how i survive and it works. BE CREATIVE, you are strong, and beautiful and smart. Even if he never tells you that. There has to be something great about you, he wants to destroy it right? so there has to be something there that makes he insecure. Find it, use it, do not be scared you already at rock bottom what do you have to lose. I wish you luck comrade.