Diamond Father Award

What makes a good father is not making sure you do the fair share of nappies and night feeds although I'm sure your wife would appreciate that. A good father doesn't need to be around so he can play with his kids all the time but your kids will remeber that fondly. A good father doesn't need to be a strict disciplinarian but your kids should respect you.
What I think is important is being there to guide and offer support through the good times and the bad. Having the strength to make difficult decisions for the good of the family.
A good father works hard to support his family, sticking out the tough times. Basically it means putting your familys needs first and your own second. It means doing everything you can to keep the family together and showing every day that you are proud to have them as your family and that you love and care for them. It means making sure your marriage is loving and strong and expecting that your wife will do the same.
If you are a father and you always do this your kids will grow up to be confident and happy and have the upper most respect for you as their father and as a man.

My own father was just like that, even in the face of family disaster he was always there and never crumbled. He kept the family together even when times were so painful and the easiest thing would have been for the mariage to fail. My dad is amazing and there are many men in the world who could learn alot from him.
RobertaSunset RobertaSunset
36-40, F
1 Response Mar 27, 2011

I totally disagree. I had the whole "provider/protector" dad claptrap. What I wanted and NEEDED was an emotionally supportive, attentive father. My mom worked a very, very good job with great benefits, so the whole "breadwinner" thing didn't apply.

But my father made the mistake of believing as long as there was a roof over my head and food in stomach, then his "job" was done. Oh how wrong he was!

It wasn't until much later I realized he grew up in the nonsensical, outdated "traditional" family--dad=breadwinner, mom=stay at home. He didn't know HOW to be any different. I would have given my right arm to have a confidante, supporter, cheerleader and nurturer in my dad. THIS is why the whole standard traditional roles need to be done away with. It doesn't give kids what they need and keeps men in a box.

Add to that his short fuse, verbal abuse, and never being able to please. You've got a recipe for someone who kicked her dad out of her life.