It Takes Guts

Being different comes naturally to some people, but it takes guts to actually go out and be among conventional society when you're different. To those who do it/have done it, I say "Cheers!"

The world is a beautiful place due to its variety. The unusual people make things interesting.

SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit
36-40, F
8 Responses Mar 5, 2010

One of them is already on here, and the other lives really far away and we don't talk much anymore. We used to be best friends, but you know how people grow apart sometimes.

Not trying to be nosy, simply interested. Just thought perhaps you could be a little more specific about the people you refer to as "friends". (I don't bestow that title lightly, but maybe that's just me?) <br />
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A lot of people use the term "transgender" without really knowing what it means, and that statement includes a significant number of people who INACCURATELY try to place themselves in that catagory. This is not a criticism aimed at you in particular, it's just an observation based on over two decades of "walking the walk" of a transwoman. <br />
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Have you ever inquired with these "friends" as to what THEIR experience has been? You might be suprised at the responses. They might even want to check out this website, who knows?

What would you like to know?

Care to share more?

I am very good friends with two transgendered people in real life, actually. :)

OOPS - My mistake on your geography. <br />
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The fact is, the UK has already shown themselves to "get it" at least a little bit better than our own maintream American society has. Alas, much of the blame for the lack of progress for trans-folk (as opposed to the collective gay and lesbian communities) is our own fault, but I digress.<br />
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Just out of curiousity, have you ever (knowingly) made the acquaintance of a trans-person (in real time) from your area? If so, how's that working out for you and her/him? <br />
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Point being, the more "mainstream" allies trans folk can acquire, the quicker we'll realize equal (NOT special) rights in America. The problem is, not enough trans-folk have the "guts" (ah, back to the original topic at last!) to go out and deal with the inevitable stares and less-than-flattering comments. When the world stops thinking of trans-people in terms of what they see on Jerry Springer, the better off we'll ALL be, but that won't happen as long as so many of us are stuck in that proverbial "closet".<br />
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End of rant.

Actually I'm from the States, but I am very open-minded and accept everyone. :)

A huge "CHEERS" back to you SOTR!<br />
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I take it you are from the UK? It has come to my attention that your side of the pond accepts transgender folk far more readily than my own less-enlightened compatriots here in the once-mighty "Land of the Free" (HA!).<br />
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Clearly the personification of "different" is the male-to-female trans-person. If you want to talk about having the "guts" to go out and face the day, try doing it as a leggy 6'3" (before heels!) platinum blonde (NOT a wig!) with big blue eyes, big hands and a slightly deeper-than-usual voice. <br />
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"Unusual", yes, "intellectual", maybe, --- but trust me, being trans is NOT for "sissies". <br />
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However, being true to one-self is PRICELESS!.