Intellect is only admirable when it's accompanied by a humble heart. It's what separates an educated mind and with a wise soul. They have two completely different styles of sharing knowledge that differs at their sense of selflessness.

I hear a lot of intellectual dialogue taking place in a structure that's very reminiscent of a debate. I find it counteractive of understanding ones outlook. Witty rebuttals can come off as more narcissistic and dismissive than conducive to an actual enlightening conversation.

The Internet has proven to be a great example of that. How many times have you seen someone correct somebodies grammatical error? And how many times was it a very condescending way?

I don't think proving you're knowledgeable grants you respect or intelligence, unless it's for the purpose of educating.
EtherealRecluse EtherealRecluse
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8 Responses Oct 13, 2015

The internet is full of very active and aggressive instigators, which is why there is so much arguing (despite what you say, I don't really see much actual debate online. I've seen real debates, and they put most internet dialogues to shame.)
However, I have a great deal of respect for the authentic debate format. I think it draws a lot more attention and convinces a lot more spectators than mere lectures or casual responses. The latter is unreliable anyway, since you need to wait for the person to ask you for the information, and they may never do that.
One thing I think helps any debate is for it to have simple rules, which both debaters must follow. One rule I always follow whenever I debate someone is that I cease the debate at once if the other person repeats a previously-refuted point, without addressing the refutations of that point. If they do this, the discussion ceases to be a debate, and becomes just a shouting match, and that's just not worthwhile.
It's also worth mentioning that I have met certain people online (even certain opponents,) who agreed with me on this, and who even said things like "well, I think we should stop here, or this might turn into a shouting match." Yes, some people are not mature in discussion, but some people *are* mature, and I think that's where the issue lies. It's not conflict vs nonconflict.

I think people have pick and choose buzz words in my story and assumed that's what it's all about. My writing had little to do with debates but more so about an egotistical vie to win a battle of the wits.

Well, from what I read, it sounded as though you were classifying debates as being a style of sharing knowledge which is not humble, and mainly done by condescending people, so my reply is intended to address that point specifically. I think, in practice, that there are a lot of people like that online, but not all prideful conduct is debate-like, and vice versa.

Good one. A little gloomy.

"Wear your learning like a pocket watch and keep it hidden. Do not pull it out to count the hours, but give the time when you are asked." - Lord Chesterfield

i do 2,who does'nt? especially when u r dating huh?

I agree with most of what you have said but simple grammatical errors bother me. Most of the time I don't correct them, despite the desire to do so, in fear of coming off like an ***. For me, they are equivalent to someone scratching their nails down a chalkboard. Although tolerable, it is annoying just the same.

I agree with you so, so much. I was thinking this only the other day, but I couldn't find a good way to put it. Thankfully, you did that for me. x) I feel the need to share this with a few people I know, but I'll hold myself back.
My bf is a good example of someone who is both intelligent and humble, full of wisdom and knowledge-- and he's always willing to share it with others in a way that isn't condescending. I've known a few very smart people throughout my short life, though they tend to have this 'know it all' manner. That sort of thing makes it hard to connect with a person, and makes you feel afraid to talk to said person because you're scared of being mocked or corrected. (Looking stupid, basically.)

Any kind of intelligence is something to be proud of, but don't be boastful- it just pushes others away and makes you seem like.. Well, an *******, simply put..

Yes, you totally get it! I think this world demands so much of us as it is. We shouldn't put these stipulations on one another where we feel like we have to prove ourselves just to be heard.

That "oh what do you know?" mentality comes off so incredibly combative. I couldn't agree more with you. Not everyone's responsive to those high pressure situations. Especially when possible ridicule is on the line.

I really admire people who are just as eager to teach as I am to learn. I think if we were less judgmental of one another it would enable us to speak more freely. There's definitely been times where I'd want to say "I don't understand this, can you explain?" but instead I kept quite because of the possibility of being laughed at.

Thank you so much for taking the time to read my story. I appreciate your feed back and I'm so glad to find that I'm not alone in these thoughts. Please feel free to share my work as well. The soul purpose of my writing is to reach people. It's incredibly uplifting to know we are more alike than we are different (:

Yes, yes, yes. People are more willing to listen/learn when they don't feel like you're being condescending anyways!! I know I've been in situations where I've felt too embarrassed to ask about stuff.
I'd be more than happy to share this, thank you!

Very well said. :3

Thank you (:

The whole correcting grammar part of my story was just an example of egocentric behavior. Some people's intentions aren't to communicate. Some people actually prefer to flex their intellectual know how by one upping the next mans thought. That know it all behavior isn't progressive, it's actually counter constructive of social connectivity. You diminish the chance of learning from one another when you interject out of competition.