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The Subject Of Death

If someone were to ask me if I am ready to die, I would strongly protest... I am not done with this world. I do not want to be done for a long time, but I realize none of us really get to choose when we will move on.  It is not that this world itself is so grand that I do not want to part with it, that is far from the case, but maybe I enjoy my life here too much? lol. 

If I had to rate on a scale of 1 to 10 my fear of death (with 10 being a crippling phobia), I would say I am probably at a 4 or 5.

The most I can say right now is that I do not want to be afraid of death because part of me realizes it is a waste of my time to fear it. There are periods of time, seasons in my life when I do not think of it and do not worry about it, but there is still not total acceptance and I want to work toward that. I would like to be at a place emotionally where the subject of death does not disturb me at all. In a way, I see my worry and fear as a weakness I must overcome. People see me as a strong woman, but I have my fears and this is one of them. I guess it's a common enough fear, but it bothers me anyway.

If anyone has a story or experience they would like to share on how they moved past this fear I would love to hear it. I welcome stories from any faith or belief system. I do enjoy hearing different perspectives.

CheshireGrinz CheshireGrinz 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 23, 2012

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A great paradox in life is that in embracing death we can live a fuller, more enjoyable, more meaningful life. Many believe that in death the soul achieves its wholeness. It's a homecoming, a joyful event. It's been said that we need to know death to live with free imagination. I happen to agree as what death represents to me is freedom, true freedom. To believe that your earth life is part of a much larger eternal life is a step toward being free of the fear of death. I think that we must accept the survival of consciousness at death in order to free ourselves from a negative view of it. I do realize this can be difficult for some to believe in at various times in their lives just as it once was for me. Life experience however, can have a way of changing our belief systems just as it did for me. It's natural to fear the unknown so key here may be to become more familiar with death. To embrace and accept it as a gateway is to begin to see the hidden beauty in and of death. Just to mention that the net is full of information about near death experiences. Reading some of these accounts with an open heart and mind may give you a more peaceful outlook.

You know I was truly hoping you in particular might bump into this story of mine. :) For some reason I did want to hear your input most. I know this is a matter close to your heart. I am not sure I have brought it up with you in our exchanges but I am thankful you posted here. You are right, I have encountered quite a few NDE stories on the net! I even found a book written by a medical doctor on the subject which I might buy. I was talking with family about the deaths of some of our loved ones not too long ago and I think that spurred the fear again. Thank you again for your post; I always value highly and respect what you have to say..... funny looking hair or not. :)

If I were to cut my hair I would lose all my strength. A mullet is a profound and powerful thing. :-) Yes a matter (death not the mullet) close to my heart and apparantly to yours as well. Good luck to you in your search for answers and in finding peace in the area.

The mullet is clearly close to your heart ;) We'll both hope you never run into any Delilahs wishing to cut it lol.

It's quite normal to be scared, only a psychopath isn't.

It does make me feel better to know I am not a psychopath.

Glad I could help you clarify that.

Yes, I've been on the fence about it for years now. Thanks ;)

You're welcome, any time. Any other issues just let me know.

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Unfortunately I've had more than one scare in the past couple of years, illnesses when I was being having to be checked for something that could have life-threatening. Fortunately I've come through fine so far. It did force me to reflect on what matters most, for example if I had only a few months left, what would I do, what would I regret not having done? One of my conclusions was that life has to be lived without putting things off. Not the big things, not the small things either. That way one lives every day with satisfaction, and that is the best anyone can ever do, because none of us knows when our time might come. Also to be appreciative as possible of every moment. There are simple things we take for granted, that we can be deprived of so quickly, in terms of our health, and that can impact our lives enormously. So generally I am a much healthier person emotionally, less focused on negative things, which there always be some of, but there always are positive things one can focus on instead. I think that's much better, truly.

Excellent input justme! Yes, we never know when our time is. I have had a major illness too even at my young age, and I was grateful to make it through that illness. I guess I still have a way to go though before I can say I am not afraid of death. I do try to enjoy and focus more on the positive now though. It did change me in that regard, and that is why I believe every experience we have serves a purpose, but death is the biggest area that still gets me at times. I go about my life and then one day for whatever reason those thoughts hit... usually after a death in the family.

It is wonderful you see the value of holding onto the positive in life, and realize to appreciate all your time here. Thanks for posting my friend :)

Always a pleasure to read you, Ana, and a delightfully thought-provoking story, too.