In the Middle
We, that is my husband my sons and I, are adopting my husbands second cousins baby. She is currently nineteen weeks along with what is believed to be a girl. Not entirely sure. We will have to wait until her twenty four week sonogram to find out for sure. It will be an open adoption, but after the baby is born she is going to move back to Colorado, so she won't see the baby often. We are providing her with an appartment and paying her medical bills, which so far are not bad.
I have made myself wait to buy the few baby things we will have to buy another of, like a high chair and a crib. We already have two high chairs but my sons are still using them and our baby is still using the crib. We didn't go looking for a new baby let me assure you, but his cousin called and she was crying, her mom had kicked her out and she didn't want a baby, she wants to go to college, she wants to live like she is going to college. So we, that being my husband and myself, talked and we talked and talked. Finally we decided that this was the right thing to do, by that point she was already living with us, she is almost eighteen, but she doesn't want to be a mom, and that and the army is ALL I want to do. I love being a mom and I welcome the chance to raise another, and seeing as how my uterus has been out on hold for 6-8 years due to my c-sections I figure this is win for all involved. She doesn't want to be a parent, and my husband and I already are.
But I wonder if I am being selfish taking this on just before I go to training.