An Old Friend.

On my 5th anniversary to my husband I was at a ski resort I used to work at. An old friend came up to me whom I hadn't seen in nearly 7 years. He was thin and ill looking. I learned that he had recently gone through a bitter divorce. He told us his story and at the end of the night we exchanged phone numbers only with the intent of skiing with each other the next day. A year later, I contacted him regarding a possible job. That text changed my life.

He and I ended up meeting at a local bar just to catch up. This meeting ended up happening about once a week. He lived about 40 miles from me so when I finally made my way to the town he lived in I sent him a text. He invited me over to watch a move. My husband, meanwhile, was working a few states away as usual. One thing to understand about my husband, he has spent much of our married life working out of town or working overtime. His first love is money and, of course, that is also to blame for the mistakes I am about to make...

I went to my friend's house to watch a movie. On this particular day, the sexual tension was definitely there but I was able to defeat the temptation. Much to his obvious dismay, I left his house after the movie. It just didn't feel right to let anything happen. 2 weeks later that would change.

I met him at the bar that we usually met at close to my home. We drank and talked well into the night. At some point I told him he was too drunk to drive home so he must stay at my house. Well he of course didn't oppose to the idea. Once we got there we just kind of sat on the couch awkwardly. Eventually he looked at me and asked me what I wanted. I told him I wanted his hands and mouth all over me. That was the defining moment in my life. That was the moment that I went from being a faithful loving wife to a wild, sexual being. He leaned over on top of me and kissed me, then proceeded to ask me if I was sure I wanted to do this. At that point there was no doubt in my mind. He took my clothes off and had his way with me. It was the absolute best sex I had ever had.

Now, It has been well over a year and my friend and I are still seeing each other about twice a month. There are feelings there outside of just sexual pleasure but both of us know we will never act on them. It would just cause too much chaos. What we have for the moment, though, is the perfect adulterous affair. My husband works out of stat for 5 weeks on 1 week off. I have the house to myself and now live in the same town, only 10 minutes away, from my lover. We have amazing sexual chemistry.

I am well aware that this isn't going to go on forever. At some point I am going to have to put a stop to it but I dread that day so much. I definitely feel sad for my husband but I honestly feel he has brought it partially upon himself. He has always put work and money first over family and now it is catching up to him. I do love him but not in the way I love my lover. It is more than just sex with him. It is passion, attraction, spontaneous sex and a whole lot of common interests. He just seems to complete me in a way my husband never can.

It feels so weird to write all of this down but it also feels good. I've kept this bottled up for a long time now and hopefully I have found a place I can share my experiences with.
shylen shylen
5 Responses May 27, 2011

Sounds like your hubby is not giving you the love you want.He may not know you are even their any more. Just live your life and move on with your lover. IF he is doing it for you both physical and mentaly then go for it. End your marriage and devorce your hubby

It's clear that you don't want to be married to your husband anymore. You may enjoy the financial security that he provides for you, but that's about it. The more time that you spend with your lover, then the more experiences that you will want to share with him ( ie.. marriage, babies and a future etc.. ). Also, you're going to resent your husband even more than you do now as well. Just tell your husband the truth about your affair so that he can move on and find a faithful woman for himself. Don't continue to cuckold your husband and giving him the humiliating sloppy seconds while accepting his hard earned money to finance your adulterous lifestyle. If you had any shred of respect left for your husband, then you would end your marriage immediately.

It sounds like you've been unhappy in your marriage for a while but are just unwilling to do anything about it right now. This lover is like your crutch. The best thing you could do is separate from your husband and stay away from your lover for a while to see what you really want and find yourself.

It's partially your husbands fault? I think not. Do you work or is your husband providing for your free time to have your affair. If your husband is gone that much chances are he's having affairs also. sit down and talk about it, If you agree on this life stile fine. It's the deception that's wrong,

True love is not about completion but commitment.