I Blame Myself As A Mother

As a mother, especially - I blame myself for everything that is wrong with my kids.  Their lack of friends, their grades, their hygeine habits, their messy rooms.  Everything I see in them that needs improvement is because I am a lousy mother and did not teach them better.  I am taking on the reponsibility 100% and it feels heavy to carry. 

How do I release this ingrained belief?  What personality type is this and how can I help myself?  Any books out there on this subject?
armijo armijo
41-45
Jul 16, 2010