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Mornings Crushes

They may be too brief or too isolated to be considered crushes; however, there is a whole class of harmless, innocent attraction that occurs in the morning, in contrast to the rest of the day. I was driving to work one morning, and I heard a brief story on a reasonably serious news program (not some 'morning zoo' show) that reported that people were four times as likely to notice, make eye contact, and try to get the attention of other drivers they found attractive in the morning than at any other time of the day.

While it may be the power of suggestion, I have noticed this morning phenomenon to be true, and not just for driving. It may apply to the people in line or working the counter for a stop for coffee or a snack on the way to work, on public transportation in the morning, or in connection with a morning flight. I have been flying at least twice per week lately, much more than my usual flying habits, and there is something about these morning attractions. It seems that for the morning flights there is always someone in the gate area during the waiting stage that catches my eye, and it is harmless people watching, but someone who makes me very curious. It is a one-off, although I do see some of the same people traveling every week on the same flights like me, so I know it may not really be a crush, but it is a very similar feeling.

We have an energy and perhaps a hopeful optimism in the morning that we lack at other points of the day. Most of us are sober; I am usually sober in the morning. Maybe it's a fantasy that it would be nice to get to know this interesting looking person, skip work, and fly to Tahiti together, instead of Pittsburgh or Houston, or whatever our "final desination" may be.

It's free, it's innocent, and I enjoy my morning crushes,
WildeOscar WildeOscar 51-55, M 14 Responses Mar 14, 2011

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What a sweet story. : )
I like to give my smile to people I don't know and get one in return. Wouldn't exactely call that crushes but it gives a nice feeling for a short while.

i think i have noticed this as i will be even more alert! :)

You've probably been the cause of many morning crushes, without even realizing it. Now you know the effect you have on men, and some women also.

It's morning! Fresh from sleep.... the make up hasnt slid off, who knows what the day will bring!

Ready to make eye contact with everyone, and to smile at those who interest you. I'm sure you're ready to smile at everyone, but let's save the special smiles, the really sexy ones, for those little crushes.

What an interesting concept. Now, I have to pay more attention and see if I do make eye contact more in the morning!! I am a people watcher anyway so this will be fun to "keep an eye on!" :)

Well, I'm going to keep an eye on you, starting now. One of the first people to comment nailed it - we look just the way we want to look when we leave the house in the morning, so we're more confident about catching and keeping the glance or interaction of a person we find attractive.

AWESOME!! I do see where confidence could enhance this whole process....It'll be fun to pay attention to now! I love it when I read things that make me stop and really think or consider something new....It's one of the best parts of this site!!

You've just described this so well. (intently reading between the lines). I think feeling good in every way about ourselves, especially in the morning, we just can't dismiss beauty from our sight without giving it a compliment inside our heart.

I had thought of it as harmless, healthy even, fantasy. The idea of complimenting beauty with these thoughts and feelings is a good way of expressing it.

hrd39, excellent insight. I had forgotten that the radio news piece on this morning attraction phenomenon specifically mentioned fresh hair and makeup - projecting the desired image and confident to offer eyes, a smile, or a wave back because everything is in place. So, there is some definite advantage to rising before noon.

I can understand this completely, <br />
People look their best on the way to work.<br />
All dressed up in their pressed shirts an Skirts.<br />
Stockings without runs.<br />
All prim and proper,<br />
Yeah can make your mind wander....<br />
I love official looking women

blackforest, very nice thoughts. Harms no one. Can brighten a day, or every day.

I don't usually have crushes. Perhaps, because I am not usually attracted to the physical form. I am more of the personality type. Hence, I have strong crushes which stay through the years.I have everlasting crush to the bestfriend of my older brother. Then have met two amazing men here on EP. But I won't tell, it might spark

The attraction we feel to the smile or manners or voice of another in our regular daily life is a great reminder that we are alive and well. When aware of one of these crushes, I don't need to check myself for a pulse. I am sure your natural curiousity contributes considerably to the quality and intensity of your crushes. Yes, definitely a strong pulse.

Sunshine, the prospect of these little crushes should cause more people to unclench their fists and be open to the simple joys of life as you are.

They are contagious as well, when I see someone with a happy little smile on her face, or his face, I can't help but smile myself. If there is any crime in it, it is a victimless crime, and I will plead guilty. Thank you, dehliarose for making me smile, again.

Mary, thank you so much. Dehliarose, I expect that crushes are a bit different for each individual, and I can only really describe my own. Other stories and comments in this experience group offer some additional insight. There are some commonalities, and it doesn't seem that they are all that different for man vs. women. I agree that something fleeting and not repeated or continuing doesn't fit well within the concept of crush. For me those ongoing things may start right away or build slowly. One thing is certain though: once disclosed, the crush is gone. It may turn into something else, but the secret is part of the excitement.

You are an exceptional person in every way Gw. Your early morning is my mid-afternoon the day before, so I will look for you any time of the day. As the one on the swing, you will be easy to spot.