When Does Life Begin???`

Hi Jo!



I'm a 44-year-old. It would seem that you have programmed yourself. You were worried and expected it to be bad, and then it happens. Something similar happened with me. But if you would forgive yourself, and turn over a new leaf, and do things that bring positive emotions and feelings to yourself (and that includes being around people), then you will start to feel better.



Don't give up, you seem intelligent and attractive and both of those aspects are winners. Evaluate your situation and think what you can do to change it. Inject a lot of joy into your life. The more the better :) And take care of the health, too, sleep and good food. A good sleep makes a person look three years younger. Maybe go get a massage this weekend, perhaps see a friend for a drink afterwards.



Talk to me if you like. I, too, at times struggle with the loneliness and fear. Talking with you would be talking with someone who understands my own concerns.



One thing that works for me is concentrating on the now. Not the past, not that much on the future, but just now and enjoying the now. Like the philosphers and gurus from India say.



Ciao!

RoomwithaView

Jo...the question I have to ask, why have you been single so long ?

Yes, stop feeling sorry for yourself, self petty destroyes.

One day at a time.

Thanks Cheyenne527 thats a great reply. I suppose its my outlook that needs to change and instead of feeling sorry for myself and alone, I need to embrace that as my time and look for things to fill the gaps. I've been single for 12 years now though and just cant help thinking that if I couldnt find love in my late 20s/30s then there wont be much hope now with my lack of confidence lol ;-))



Oh well, maybe I should just grow old gracefully with my dogs ;-))

Jo...don`t worry, it`s just a passing faze.

When I hit the 40`s my heart just slumped. I kept looking in the mirror, seeing the gained weight, grey hairs in my beard, and thinking,.... **** time flies.

Now being 43, I realized that, now, I have a good job, the kids are grown up and all my free time is mine, really mine. I keep in shape now by playing baseball, volleyball, stuff I didn`t have time for before.

Also, at this time in our lifes, we have nothing to proof to others, We did the best we could with what we had.

Find yourself, your true self and start doing the stuff you always wanted to do !

Now....it`s time to enjoy life and not give a flyin F... about what people say.

I agree totally that its a number. Thanks for you reply. I just find that its a lonely age (for me anyway) friends are all in relationships etc and I have nothing. Hopefully things will change ;-))