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Bicurious Married Man

I've been hit on by men before, but have never experienced being with a man. I've trolled message boards, and talked to guys; but all of them are "let's meet . . . RIGHT NOW" guys. On the one hand, I don't want to just randomly hook up with someone. Kinda risky. On the other hand, I don't want a "boyfriend." I am in love with my wife, but I really feel like I need to explore this. I enjoy reading the stories on EP, and hope to make some new friends and get some further insight. I'm hoping NOT to get a bunch of, "you're married, you dirty cheater" comments. Trust me, I'm not all that happy with the thought - on a lot of levels. On others, yeah - it's a dirty, forbidden, lusty thing to think about, which makes the idea that much hotter.
byecuriousguy byecuriousguy 41-45, M 49 Responses Nov 14, 2010

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I first dated a bisexual man and was not happy that he was between men and me, but suddenly adopted his sexuality at 25. Ever since then, and not sure why, have always attracted either gay or bisexual men in my life as a female. I would guess that at 50, you are wanting to be settled with your feelings, and so should you be, except that we are all very complex beings. Sometimes life throws opportunities at us all the time, yet it is finding what and who might make us feel that much more emotionally 'settled and stable' on the whole. My partner is straight and so am I, yet we don't even have a sexual relationship even though I am fully committed to that, even though there are many times when I just want something more as a still sexually attractive young woman at 42.

i am a bi curious man, have had a unwanted sexual experience as a boy and liked it . Till this day my mouth waters when i think about pleasing another man. I am in san diego, ca. and would love to find someone to experience the sensation of the things i used to have to do to the guy.... I am married and my wife knows my situation.

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same here.

im also a young married man but now my marriage with my wife seems not good and were planning to get not happy anymore bcoz im getting interested and attracted to matured old men i dont know very much curious and seeking to have a relationship or even a friend at first im willing to try and got serious.
im handsoem and dont have any experience yet and i love to try matured men no matter what nationality are you came from.

add me on m y facebook account i came from the philippines.

search and add me MARLON SABONSOLIN....tanks looking for a serious good men out there...

Hi I like the way you think

I'm in the Cambridge, Ontario area if anyone is interested in meeting. Maybe a friend with benefits or just hang out.

I felt the same 15 years ago. My wife had lost interest and I was frustrated. I had just gotten the Internet and tried a chat room to see if other guys were having the same issue - I needed to talk to someone about it. A guy from a city an hour away began chatting with me, he was a recent widower. Long story short, we exchanged phone #'s and began having phone sex. I had the most intense *******. On a business trip later that year I met him and we spent 24 hours naked and enjoying each other so passionately - it felt normal.

For me it was amazing - the danger is getting hooked on it and not qualifying your partners. Over the years I have met a few great partners but there are a lot of people trolling around. As I got older I'm more patient. Now I have a married friend I go to the gym with. When we have opportunity we get together and service each other. Kind of very civilized but I can understand people will find this unusual.
Good luck all!

I am in the same place that you are. I've been married now for 26 1/2 years and I've recently in the past couple of years thought about sucking a ****. Prefer someone who is married and clean. I used to chat with a couple of guys and talk about j/o together but we never got anything going. I love my wife; sex is great with her. But, it's like a lot of guys say, it's an experience worth trying. So, I'm open to sucking my first ****.


If anyone is near northern Idaho message me, I'm 19 and feel the same as many of you. An STD is my worst nightmare though so I want safety to be the biggest concern.

I'm a 52 year old married man who's been married 28yrs. Started sucking **** 12 years ago and found out that I loved the feel of a hard **** in my mouth. It didn't take anything away from sex with my wife, I personally feel that it made it better. I'm glad that I sucked a **** and I would recommend to anyone thinking about it to try it once. Their is nothing worse than wishing and wondering what it's like. Now that my wife isn't interested in sex I think about sucking **** every day. Wish my friend didn't have to move out of town. Like most here wife doesn't know about my desire, it would be nice if I could get her to suck a **** with me, or give me here blessing to enjoy myself. Live is to short not to enjoy yourself.

really guys sucking a c*** is the best I'm 68 married and my wife an I have sucked a lot of c*** together, she has stop having sex now, but I'm still sucking

The fact you and your wife did it together is great. I first had oral sex when I was in my teens, and really enjoyed it. I had a relationship with another friend about ten years ago, but he wanted to stop. My wife is no longer interested in sex, and I really want to try it again, but can't find another guy with the same interest.

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Thanks for sharing that. I probably would have got married first too and then secretly wanted to have gay experiences I would never actually have, had a college friend not guessed I had these leanings and set out to successfully seduce me when he stayed over at my parents house a couple nights, sharing a large double bed I had in the room I had fixed up over the garage. He started by embracing me when we naked, remarked on my instant arousal and then worked his way round from stroking my manhood to my great embarrassment to sucking it too quite divinely. I'm really big (16cm circumference) but not very long (13cm) so he swallowed it all the way. I'm sure I was not his first! Before I knew what I was doing he slipped off his briefs, applied some Vaseline between his buttocks while I asked him what he was doing. Then he was straddling me naked and my knob was sinking through his loosening silky sphinctre and sliding up his chute inch by inch. I thought my head was going to explode from blushing. That felt seriously erotic but a guilty pleasure I almost wasn't ready for. I came inside him while begging him to stop. But I would never have gone looking for any of that. Too terrified I might like it and it might ruin my life. I did like it a lot though. I fell madly in lust and in love with him too...and then felt very let down when he later announced after several months that he had proposed to and was getting married to a girl I actually knew, whom he had dated the previous year. He wanted us to continue having sex after he got married though (!) ....but I broke up with him long before they got hitched. I wasn't going to settle for being the 'other man' and be accused of being some marriage wrecker in years or months to come. No way! Knowing the girl she would have guessed something was up before too long anyway. He was crazy imagining we could keep a thing like that from her. It's best to try these things out when you are between girl relationships rather than when your still in one. Safer all round for everyone.

I'm the same, married, never experienced, very cautions, not happy with the thought, but feel I need to do this.

I feel the same. Have erotic feelings about playing with a guy and sucking each other. Have tried it a couple times over last six years and always felt so guilty about cheating even though I've told myself it really is not cheating since I don't love guys......just like playing with a different clock. I'm 65 now and wish I could find a local married guy in the same situation for safe occational play.

U need to find a man whos in the same position. This way you can both endulge in hot sweaty discreet sex. Im a married man with 3 kids. I love my wife but she cant **** me balls deep bareback and **** in my hole. For like 2 years I stayed silent and one day at work I was talking with another employee in the same situation. Because he also has a wife and kids and doesn't want to ruin his life we both shag each other discreetly. We only have each other and our wifes so dont catch any gay STDs. Once every month we book a hotel for 2-3 nights and **** till we **** in each other. Sooo HOT!! He's big **** rams me till the morning and then I abused his hole till the night ;) im soo glad I found him ryt under my nose. His **** is just so big. We love each other and our wifes. I never regret letting him entre my tight arse which only he invades!

I have a young sexy wife but still love the feel of a guy in my mouth. There is nothing as good as a BJ from another guy.

I agree

Yes, only because we know how to handle a ****. Don't feel guilty if its something your wives wont do for you. its only when you deprive her.

An ideal situation is to get to know a guy who is willing to do things you want to and be your friend as well, a guy you can trust who when it takes your fancy and you are both available at the time you both want to get together,
I am, at the moment getting to know a guy who says its his first time, but too timid to take the next step.
He will probably curse himself when he finally make to step that he didn't do it years before. I was lucky enough to be bi enough to start in my young 20s, when I was still married, by the way my marriage didn't break up through my sexual encounters.
My wife took off with her girl friend when she realised she was gay.
You might not understand me straight away, but in time you will except that I was right.

You've really tapped a nerve with this. Thanks for posting! I feel the same way as everyone else.

I know what you mean. I have mixed feelings but at the same time I want a man so bad!! I have never even came close to it though. I am married and have kids and love my wife. However I would love to be taken by a man. I would love it!! I do not think it will ever happen. Like you I don't want a " right now" or a boy friend.

Same here I know how you feel


I do have a happy married man, Only when he has a chance (working in my suburb) he drops in and I orally satisfy him. He doesn't have to recipucate. I just love his c**k, I am giving something his wife, cannot or will not do.
I get tested every three months, and he is the only one in my life.

i relate alot to what you wrote. thanks for sharing your story.

you sound a lot like me.

I am married a,d bi, but my wife doesn't know!! I would like my male lover to have sex with my wife while I watch and jerk off.
I mentioned a ********* with my wife while having sex and she seemed interested but she changed her mind. I shared naked pics of my wife with my amn lover and he loves them.
does anyone have a fantasy of how they would make love to my wife while I watch?? We prefer mature men 50-60.
if its juicy enough I will show my wife and maybe this will
move us forward.

I am 51 and have just recently began to wonder what it would be like to play with another man. I think the ********* is the most comfortable way I could initiate such an encounter though.
I would very much like to see some pictures of your wife.
I would also very much like to make out while you watched. I would kiss and caress her knowing that you are getting as excited as I am making your wife. I would slip my hands up her blouse and undo her bra. Freeing her breasts so I could feel the warm soft mounds. I would gently caress them until I felt her nipples become erect between my fingers. My mouth would replace my fingers as I suckled your wife's breasts.
While my lips are sucking my ands would of course slide down between her thighs for a tempreture reading. when I feel her moistness My fingers would begin to massage her *****.
Once she became aroused enough I would bury my face between her thighs and let my tongue slide and probe her slit.
Thats when I would look over my shoulder and signal for you to join us. So she enjoy stimulating you orally while I gobbled her up.
We would have to change positions so that I could mount her from behind and fill her with my throbbing meat.
We could roll her to her back and use all four of our hands to play with her.
fingering her until she asks for more.
We could then take the opportunity to touch each other. stroking your **** while I fingered your wife. Mmmm.

So true! Same here is difficult to explain the feeling but you explained well.

Same here, thanks for sharing!

Same situation here. I get ya!

I understand completely in same situation .