Just Found Out That My Wife Has Feelings For Another Woman
My story is this, I am a husband who has been married to my wife for 6 years and been together for 8 years and have had problems in our relationship. When I got int this relationship 8 years ago, she told me she had relationships with women from the age of 17 till about 27 or 28 from what she told me. She told me it was because of her appearance that she thought men were not interested in her. She told me when she was with women back then that she had cheated on them with men. Now that confuses me to all end. After she found out men were interested in her, she stood away from that lifestyle for about 10 years. Our marriage has not been the greatest because we do not communicate very well with each other. We do love each other alot and care for each other deeply. Another thing in our marriage is that my wife found out in February that she had uterine cancer and that a hysterectomy was needed. We were trying to have children but it all failed. She had the hysterectomy April 2008. Now I have noticed a complete change in her outlook on life. Yes she got a 2nd chance on life but now I feel I will not be part of it. This lady is 54 yrs old and my wife is 37 yrs old and has worked in this place for many many years and even though my wife works in the same hospital as her, they work different hours. My wife said the feelings she is having has nothing to do with sexual feelings but just emotional feelings that she has to explore for herself. Now did the hysterectomy really play a part in this or something else trigerred it. She tells me she dont want to leave right now but in the future she is not sure what the future holds. How do I handle this? I have never been in this situation ever in my lifetime. My wife did tell me she is going to talk to a counselor to see how she can cope with this. And I am going to a counselor as well starting tomorrow. I do want to stay in this relationship and want a future together. It is very hard to deal with is when your wife holds your life in her hands. How do I cope with this? What do I need to deal with this situation?