I'm Black. My White Boyfriend Is More Attracted To White Women.My boyfriend and I have a pretty normal relationship.
We love eachother, and live together, going on 3 years now. The only problem I seem to encounter is that sometimes I feel like I'm not attractive enough to him. Once and while, when I use his computer I find ***********. This is pretty run of the mill, and doesn't bother me. What does bother me is the fact that all the *********** he looks at is of a specific type of women. White, with long hair, and tattos, the exact OPPOSITE of me. When I've asked him in the past, he says that he does not have a preferance, although I am his first black girlfriend. It's getting harder and harder for me to feel beautiful around him! I will never have blue eyes, blonde hair, or be tiny! I try not to let my self-consciousness get in the way of our relationship, but somedays it really affects me. I've always loved white men, and to me, my boyfriend is everything that I've ever wanted physically. How can an african-american woman cope with the stress of feeling less attractive than our opposites? All of the men I have dated in the past exclusively dated black women, so I'm just not sure how to react with this.I know that I am not the only woman who feels this way, as I have read many articles about it. Is there anyone out there going through a similar situation, or one that can offer any advice?
PrettyGirlBlues 22-25, F 17 Responses 6 Jun 23, 2011