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I really have not yet dated anyone outside of my race yet.  I am though very attracted to white men but too afraid to go up and strike a conversation.  I do notice that some stare at me and I stare at them back and its flirty on both parts but nothing more happens then that. 

My best friend tells me it could just be a phase that I am going through since I just got out of  a bad relationship but I tell her no.. that cannot be the case, because I have always secretly liked white men but was just too afraid to say anything. 

chocolate34 chocolate34 31-35, F 29 Responses Apr 7, 2009

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I would like to see a photo of you then we can chat

Pitty you don't have pic, I am atracted to black women, the darker the better, I don't know why, maybe its the greener grass thing, but a beatiful woman is a beatiful woman to me, I just like mine the color of chocolate.

Okay - here is one right up front. I am from the great state of Virginia and I want to make love with a black women and am looking for a NSA relationship that might last for a long time. Anybody on experience project that wants to meet to see if the chemistry is there?

Well, I have always secretly loved black women but have not known how to tell them that. Most seem like they want to put down their guys but maybe I'm wrong. It would be soooo nice to be friends and maybe more with a black lady that really doesn't see color as I don't .

why don't you respond???

you need to get your pretty black *** close to me and SOMETHING WILL happen...

Ladies, please just get out there and do it...I am a white man and adore women of color...

I am a 23 yr old Jamaican. I live in the u.s now and I truthfully am attracted to white men. My examples of the type I like are Michael Fassbender and Luke Evans. To me, they're demeanor and style are very attractive to me. My thing Is I haven't really dated a white guy. I don't particularly like black american males bc they think it's cool to date a girl while they're in a relationship. I stay to myself bc most men regardless of race are now into having a gf yet playing games with another females. My thing is I would love to see what white men are like. But I'm scared that I'm ugly to them or theyre are racist. I need help.

You eont know til you tried

Don't be afraid to approach white men... You will probably be surprised at how receptive they will be... If one turns out to be racist, you can quickly eliminate him and move on to find the right man who willingly love you...

That's exactly how I am. I always think I'm not considered attractive to them. Hope you figure things out. By the way, I agree on loving Luke Evans. That man is so s3xy. ;) Take care.

Me too im from the caribbean as a women I am attracted to white men but I am to afraid to tell them:) lol silly me

Just do it

Well I have been putting myself out there and I am talking to one now. He's actually a sweetheart but he doesn't live in the same state as me. And I can't tell if he's into me but our convos are laid back, nothing dirty or overly sexual. I do hope it goes somewhere. Wishful thinking I suppose...

But be afraid to start the conversation

Go for it, go for it, go for it!!! Where I'm from the old adage where some man is better than no man at all drives me nuts. B/c what most of the men when I was from had nothing to offer, black or white. I chose to get the hell outta there and never settle on a mate. Friends and family can and should put their personal feelings aside and just be happy when it comes to people finding that some one, regardless of race. Small minds will never overshadow those of us with big hearts and love to share! *Cheers*

Go for it, go for it, go for it!!! Where I'm from the old adage where some man is better than no man at all drives me nuts. B/c what most of the men when I was from had nothing to offer, black or white. I chose to get the hell outta there and never settle on a mate. Friends and family can and should put their personal feelings aside and just be happy when it comes to people finding that some one, regardless of race. Small minds will never overshadow those of us with big hearts and love to share! *Cheers*

Color may be the first thing which would catch someone's attention but after that it's the person and not the color who you would have any type of relationship with.

I am a 47 year old white male and am finding Black ladies more attractive all the time more so because most don't have that snobby white girl attitude. Not just that, I love their smiles, skin is very soft etc etc. I have never dated a black lady before but would really consider it. In fact at a casino/bar/restaurant there was a band playing the lead singers were these two beautiful black ladies they were awesome, in fact one of them was gorgeous. I wonder if they would consider dating white guys?

I think black ladies r veryyy sexy!!!! Would love to chat!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

As a black woman I find myself attracted to white men. Unlike most i found that i could not hold in my preferrence. So far i have not been able to have a relationship outside of my race yet. But as a college student i have plenty of time and i am in a time where relationships like these are more accepting. But i never know if its ok to flirt with a guy. I have a fear of trying to flirt with a white guy then find out he's races. I just don't know how to go about letting them know im interested.

Come on not all white guys are racist

I am a white man that loves black women who love white men. I just wish more of you lived closer to Wisconsin.

The stories above just excite me. I am a 39 year old male, with a beautiful daughter aged 9. Living and growing up in South Africa has had many challenges, and I am sure the world knows of our past. Saying that, I find black woman extremely beautiful. My daughter lived in Brandon Tampa for many years and I met some beautiful woman. In South Africa, you dont see a lot of mixed couples, but hopefully one day we will get there. Thanks for the great articles.<br />
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i fell off the dating/being attracted to black men only wagon long ago.

Hi everyone,<br />
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First let me say that I have seen more and more white men and black women becoming more open that it was years back from today. Let me explain...I was raised in and all Black family beginning at the age of 4 day's old. Now when once I got up to the age where I begin to start noticing girls my first and always desire was to strictly date nothing of than women of color. <br />
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Actually I've never dated any woman outside of the Black community and I am 52 now and have had 4 very committed relationships over the years and have been married once also. Yes I am white and as I have said my only preference is nothing other than a sistah. "I Love Myself A Black Woman" and always will. Never ever had any problems getting one if I wanted and I've never met a sister whom didn't find me attractive in lots of way's other than just my being good looking.<br />
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Yeah back in the day or some years back I took a lot of BS from both Blacks and Whites because I am who I am and what I like when it comes to my Lady. But you just didn't see it as open then as you see more of it today. And i am truthfully really happy for this because it really makes me feel really good to see a interracial couple out in public and expressing their affection towards each other and not worrying what other people are saying. yeah I am in another committed relationship and the sistah whom I am with is some younger than myself but she has nothing but an attraction to white guys starting in her teens which she is in her mid- 30's now.<br />
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If you have an attraction to a white guy or a black woman then don't be ashamed of it because if you hold back you are missing out on meeting someone who could just very well be the life long partner you have been in search of and for. Let them know you are attractive to them. I travel all over the global with my job as a mechanical engineer. There have been lots of times I have been approached by a black woman and we would engage into conversation and before I knew it we had exchange numbers or cards. To all you Sistah's out there let me say something! Most often what I have heard from a lot of white guys is that they really like Black Women and find them very beautiful and yeah sexy too. But they just aren't assure how to approach a black woman. Now to me may be because being raised in a black neighbor hood and all my family is black and always feeling more comfortable when I am around blacks. I can't seem to grasp what they're problem is. But any way, sistah's if you want to go up and start a conversation with a white guy you find yourself attractive to then do so. They are not going to take you as being loose or easy. They see you as a WOMAN. <br />
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Loving myself a Black woman is all I know and I'm happy with this and always have been. So to both Sistah's and White Brother's, Sure the other partner may have a different shade of skin color but that doesn't make them any less than being a human being. So be good to your Black Woman White guys and love them just the way you want to be loved. Cherish them just because they are the gift that God has entrusted you with. And Sistah's y'all go on and love them there white boy's just the way you know that you are suppose to as a woman. <br />
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Peace to all and let's have a party up in here...

If any black females 46-60 may be interested in chatting, you know how to reach me...pcpsan w/male/49

I can pretty much strike up a conversation with just about anyone but when it comes to flirting, I'm terrified of ever flirting with a whiteman. I have this thing, which I could be wrong, but I just think they would think I was easy if I tried to do that. I wouldn't want to give the wrong impression.

I can pretty much strike up a conversation with just about anyone but when it comes to flirting, I'm terrified of ever flirting with a whiteman. I have this thing, which I could be wrong, but I just think they would think I was easy if I tried to do that. I wouldn't want to give the wrong impression.

I encourage all Black women to spread their wings and date men of other races. It seems that many of us have a sense of obligation to our "brothers" - which is not reciprocated - or we accept the stereotype that Black men are the epitome of masculinity and think other races cannot measure up. I think not. Black men date and marry outside of the race in record numbers. Why wait around for a Black man to sweep you off your feet when there are attractive and genuine men of other races who are interested in dating you?

If you are only Interested in the sexual aspect the I can say I have had three black girlfriends in my life. Each was a better lover than any of the numerous white ones. Culturally blacks are less inhibited than whites. When a man is giving her what she wants / needs she is always going to give back better than she gets. <br />
In my particular case the ladies wanted oral. Being as I am, <br />
always happy to give, no holding back, I was always surprised. <br />
Too bad for me I could never seem to build a relationship that went beyond that.

i've dated a arrogant white and a humble white guy whom loved me because of the connection that we've shared and dump me bacause was insecure about the race, ive always been attracted to light skin boys and white boys but i thought it was just a phase too but it wasnt and when i tried to date black man they were to eager and i take time to embrace i need a spiritual and soul connection then just the flesh and ethnics

For black women who are interested in dating outside their race, there is a blog that will be helpful for you called “For The Sistas.” It also has posts on dating for black Christian women. Some of the posts are a bit long, but they aren’t any longer than the cover story of a magazine article and I really do think they’ll be useful to you. The blog address is ForTheSistas (dot) blogspot (dot) com. By the way, the blog also has information on dating men from Europe.<br />
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Black women need to get off this black-man-only band wagon because, for too many, it obviously is not working. I’m not saying don’t date black men, just expand your options. Please forward this to other black women you know.

I'm on the other side of this, being a white guy attracted to black women. In high school I was one of four white students in the whole class, and I can kinda see where you're coming from. But for me, I don't think that their ethnicity had anything to do with my inability to talk to them. I just wasn't in too well with the girls in general.<br />
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My advice is to keep your preference for white guys as just that- a preference. If you look too actively for a specific kinda guy, you might lose focus on what you'd really want in a guy.

White, black, green, yellow what difference does it make. Yes when I was young and stupid it was a dream to make love to a black woman. Now that I am older I like the woman for who they are, how they take care of themselves, and are they attracted to me.<br />
Race is only something that is in our heads and it was put there by society. My mother is races and I hate it. <br />
I guess that we all have our attractions mine is not black or white it is first physical then spiritual.