Sad Because I Cant Wear Skirts

Im 22 years old and I burned when I was 5 or 6 dont remember. Im a wife and a mother, I burned from my knees up to my butt cheek from one leg. I have a skin graph from the other leg its only the back part that got burned not the front. All my life I have wanted to wear sexy clothes but I cant because of my scars. I fell so jelouse every time is see women with their short shorts or skirts, it destroys me that I could never be able to wear what they can. Every time that its summer I fear it so much because every one will be with their cute skirts and outfits that I will never be able to wear. The only thing that I want so much is to wear shorts and skirts and fell sexy. Sometimes I fell so depress and wonder if there is a type of surgery that I could get to get rid of my scars, the scar that looks the worse is from the leg that got burned the other scar from the graph doesnt look as bad,but still it show alot.
Liliana18 Liliana18
9 Responses May 8, 2012

Wow, you just described the male version of me. I love shorts
But I'm burned on my right lower leg from knee to ankle in the front
And a little in the back. There's actually a name for this condition,
It's called ( body identification disorder ). I learned this 29 years post
Burn. Read about it, it a help a little.

Liliana18: As a fellow burn survivor, I understand the pressure you feel to "cover up" and not let the world see you because of how you may be judged. When I was in my early twenties, I tripped over my dog and dumped a large pot of boiling water and noodles backward onto myself. I burned my face, neck, chest and stomach, with the worst of the burns being on my chest area.

Once I got out of the hospital, I felt like a monster. I was sure everyone was staring at my bandages and then at my bright red scars. I took to wearing my mother's turtlenecks in the summer!

I felt as though I wasn't myself anymore. I became so depressed over my "scary" appearance, I developed severe depression and lost my job. Losing my employment was the best thing that could have happened to me at the time. It forced me to deal with my depression and issues with self-image.

I worked with a wonderful counselor who helped me to understand that the scars on our bodies tell the story of who we are and where we have been in life. She got me to see that I was still beautiful inside and out and that I could wear whatever I felt like wearing. If people asked about my scars, I could be as brief as I wished in explaining. If someone stared at me, I could stare back just to creep them out or ignore it, knowing that I am one of millions of people who show a part of their life story physically and it is okay.

I've accepted my scars as a part of who I am. I wear v-neck tops and anything else that strikes my fancy because I can. I hope you can find a way to accept that your scars don't make you any less of a person. They make you unique. Wear short skirts and shorts (especially while you are young enough to pull it off). If people ask, tell them whatever you want to. If people stare, remember it is their issue, not yours.

Take care and best wishes for finding the inner peace you most certainly deserve.

kids are very cruel i remember those days smh i laugh at it now i wear whatever i want and just know im sexy lol keep ur head up girly :))

i am a burn survivor too. 31 y o female. left alone in bathtub when i was 1 y o 3rd degree 80$ of my body. mostly just shows on butt legs and feet now. bi as well in my later 20s learned to accept it and rock short shorts all summer now. just learn to own it and not let it define you. kids were really cruel in elementary school so i always thought i was a monster. got freddy crueger alot! lol...its so insugnificant now. my children and hubby brought me thru! u r all beautiful and those scars DO NOT define you!

I was in a house fire when I was 3. I got 3rd degree burns on %80 of my body and had to have my leg amputated below the knee as a result. I had a horrible time dealing with my scars as a teenager and young adult, I wore long pants and skirts even in the summer and would go to great lengths to conceal my prosthetic leg and scars. <br />
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Im not really sure what happened but in my 20's I just realized, this is silly, I cant hide who I am for the rest of my life. So slowly I started wearing clothing that exposed more and more of my scars. <br />
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What I learned was the reactions I got from other people were positive and rewarding and not at all what I was afraid theyd be when I was younger. I think my scars make me who I am, and Im proud of who I am. When I go out and feel confident about myself knowing that being different makes me unique and special then others accept me as a confident, unique person. Sometimes I have days where I am not as confident and I noticed that when I feel embarrassed about my appearance it makes other people perceive me as being unapproachable or unlikable.

I Feal your pain I was burned at the age of five it was early in the morning I was very cold so I stood next to the fireplace to get warm the next thing I know I'm on fire I was left with third fourth degree burns mostly on my chest it's hard for me to talk about this.Anyway I'm now 46 years old and still haven't gotten over the scars the fire left behind its been a hard and challenging road.Growing up was hard I never took my shirt off in public and still dont.Going swimming was the worst for me having to explain why I had my shirt on while swimming.You get creative though!As I got older and women where on my mind this was another big challenge for me.Always having my shirt on I never took it off.Ive learned how to live with it.As I got older I started lifting weights gave me a lot of self confidence But now I had muscles but couldn't show them off lol But I did feel better about myself.I guess it's something you deal with bet never get over.Just remember you are not alone!

I know the same feeling, i can't wear shorts, both legs are skin grafts.

I understand i am dealing with this same issue

I agree with uncle teo. Unless the scars will be more damaged by the sun, wear what you feel comfortable in. If you start showing your legs among family and friends, you will get used to exposing your scars. You may find that others will tell you about their scars. Start slow and you'll be fine.