But My Marriage Didn't.....

Yes, I survived cancer.  But it was hell on my relationship with my spouse.  It was like I was given someone else's body. My needs changed drastically, and he hated me for it.   

For the record, it wasn't a picnic for me, either. 

CatzMeow CatzMeow
46-50, F
5 Responses Dec 16, 2007

Hairspraymom, thanks SO very much for the support. How are things now for you?

I understand completely. My husband of 16 yrs was supportive, but it put a strain on our relationship too. The sexual aspect of things is still a problem even a year later. I went into chemical menopause which changes everything for a woman, and nothing for a man. Keep your head high and know you are the better person.

I am very thankful that you survived your battle with cancer. I too am a cancer survivor and I do understand how hard it is on the person with the disease and the marriage. I had a supportive husband during my time of need, but we have both changed since the surgery and my recovery. I will keep you in my prayers.

Congratulations on winning!!

I am so sorry that you had to go through the pain of cancer without the support of your spouse. Cancer and the treatments are painful and scarry. i am sorry that you felt alone.<br />
I am a cancer survivor too. I was blessed to have a spouse that was very supportive. He sisn't know what to do or say, but he was physically there. He was always willing to do what i asked. I did have to ask because he didn't know what to do. Sometimes he would do nothing rather than do the wrong thing. I had to learn to communicate my needs clearly.<br />
I hope that you are doing well now. I hope that things in your marriage improved as well. COngradulations on the battle against cancer.