What The Heck?

MAN do I understand!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I came from a horrible home, and cared for my Sociopathic Dad until he ran off with a 20 somethig escort abandoning his wife of 54 years...then I cared for my only sibling, an end stage alcoholic whl almost died then went right back to drinking, now its my Mom who has 2 terminal diagnosis and is jus horrible to deal with.She needs to go into a nursing home, shes getting mean. Im SO TIRED of caring for everyone else!!!!!!!!!! I want my life back!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

i understand and when the 2 that live iwth me now are gone i am going to do something elses i have seen to much death and deing in my life

Hi "deleted,"



I totally understand your feelings on this matter. I, too, had very difficult, abusive parents. I cared for my Mother with vascular dementia for a little over 3 years. I've got another screen open trying to find that quote about why people find themselves in the caregiver role. Something about when you feel that you are obligated to care for others, such situations present themselves in your live. It was from hubpages on spiritual law.

I like the part at the end where you say, quite simply, "people change." I guess you learned all that you had to learn from those setups and now finally have time to care for yourself. You should be darned proud of your accomplishments, for not everyone could have done what you have done with your life. Hope you know that there are a good number of people out there who keep you in their thoughts, realizing that without you they would not have made it.

Hubpages won't open, but if it's worthwile, when I find it I will send you the link.



I hope your husband is receiving care comparable to that provided by you. It's a long road to go down. They need us to continue to see them as they once were in, if only in our hearts.



I hope you were able to forgive your parents. Therein lies the key to self-love (at least it was for me, so I sincerely wish it for everyone else). They really did do the best they could, or else they would have done it better. That thought helps me/hope it can comfort you.



All the very best to you in the New Year, sincerely.