Relationships

I am having a hard time maintaining relationships. I am very caring and really want to be a better person in keeping a social life.
I find that since I am very sensitive I often get hurt by what people say and take things very personal. I am getting to the point in my life that I try to push people away so I don't get hurt. But that is not what I want for my life. I do not want to end up a lonely person because I love people and I love being around them! I just would like to learn how to maintain and make new relationships.
Fcseteach Fcseteach
22-25, F
2 Responses Jan 11, 2013

Trust your intuition. Its telling you that certain people are toxic and not good to you. Keep your distance from fake, phony people that try to victimize you and use you. And sarcastic ones that are insensitive to you.Speak up and say no. Set boundaries to how far you will let others go with you. Limits. You deserve self love. Trust yourself first. You will receive guidance. Learn about narcissistic personality disorder. You maybe near others that have that. They are magnets to sensitive people they can control and have power over. Good luck to you. Xxoo

Sounds to me FCSEteach that your problem is exactly what you stated: "I am very sensitive I often get hurt by what people say and take things very personal." You are going to have to learn to get over being so sensitive to things people say or you might as well go live like a hermit (and lonely too boot!) So your saying you are "overly sensitive" Only you know WHY you are this way. It sounds like it is going to be a major obstacle in relationships with friends and the opposite sex if you don't learn to LAUGH AT YOURSELF! Recognize you are "not perfect" and people say things "jokingly or teasingly." Tease and Joke back (get them back playfully) Something tells me you are very serious and not the type to joke around. Maybe it is from your upbringing? Was not approved of in your family to talk that way or act that way? Or maybe your an only child....I don't know. Wish I could help but this is the best I can make of the situation.