Meet The Cheater.so .... I noticed there's a group with a title " I hate cheaters " and that made me think of myself ,
not that I hated cheaters but being one is not that fun and easy and usually the real reason for
why women/men cheat is not a selfish reason as most of you might think it was.
Of course I can't know how each person who cheats thinks or how they are like --- neither can you "haters"-----
but from my personal experience and what I've heard from the people I know ...
low self esteem is what makes people cheat more easily , not the kind of desperate and sad unconfident person , those would rather stay chained to the person they've once heard a nice thing from so they could eventually become like them = see themselves the same way.
But those kind of people who like to seem more confident than they are but who deep down punish themselves for every little flaw they have and every little mistake they do. They keep comparing themselves to everyone.
They just look for the way out of that self hatred and a way to make themselves think " I'm attractive , I'm good enough for at least some people " and for those it might not make any difference how many times that one person tells them " I love you the way you are "
they think they need to hear it a million times before they believe it so they cheat , but really .... they needed to hear that from themselves to be able to accept that some people see you as an amazing person no matter what you did.
And so my point is DON'T hate the cheaters , teach them , don't tell them they were never worth of you , tell them that you weren't the right one but they will find someone else once they have learned to love themselves.
Cheating is addicting just like everything else. And being alone and ******* everyone you see is not the same , but when you have the chance to make yourself look bad and make the one person who liked you start to hate you you get the temptation to cheat , you want to break their image of you 'cause you're not as good as they think you are , right ? you are a heartless cheater , right ? wrong , you've just not yet learned to accept yourself being loved or held on to , you need to be free and hear that " I love you " in million different voices .... but one day ... you'll wake up and there's no one left but still you feel the same way ... that day you'll finally realize to look into the mirror , look into your own eyes and say the words you've longed for so long time
" I love me"