She Really Left Her Family For Me

I saw her for the first time in twenty years at a high school reunion. We both trembled. Since then we email and talk daily. We've had sex a few times, since we were in high school. Before all this, we each married and had kids. We had an affair. Then, she left her husband and moved out from the home they shared with the kids! She says she's not "waiting for me," or that she did this for me, and we made no pact to leave our spouses, but I feel like she's forcing my hand!
There's no way out of this. It just got out of hand. I'll lose everything and so will she..
How will we face the children, later?
I know I shouldn't have done it. I love my wife and my kids. Now I feel, well, doomed.
foolishadam foolishadam
36-40
3 Responses May 16, 2012

ask your wife for an open marriage, its the only honest solution to your situation. Just realize if you want to have your cake and eat it too she should be allowed to do the same, you might be surprised by her reaction alot of women are open to the idea of being with more than one man, and then you get what you want too, your wife, and your gf.

Tell her you need some time to sort things out, and cut of contact for a few weeks and see how you feel. If you can handle life without her, then extend the time without contact. <br />
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Here is the really crazy part - It doesn't seem that you are completely happy at home, but it also is clear that you don't intend to leave your current partner. I suggest finding someone else with whom you can have a little fun. (There are more people in this category than you can believe.)

i don't know i haven't been in this exact situation before. it it were me though, id take it at face value that shes not trying to force you into leaving your family. perhaps its just that she needed an out and a push to take the leap. or perhaps having done this your better able to see what you have and just what shade of grass your dealing with. I hope that this works out for you