Little background: I've been with my husband for a total of 17 years. He is my best friend and I love him with all my heart. We have had our ups & downs but have I think a pretty strong marriage. Anyway back in July/Aug time frame I was having a lot of problems at work dealing with another team. The other team is sorta like a help desk and I couldn't't't get them to call me back so in return was getting my a$$ chewed by higher ups. I made friends with one of the guys that I'd worked with in the past and found out he had recently been promoted to one of the leads. He was able to actually get the team to assist me which helped me out a great deal. He & I started talking as friends.

Fast forward to today: Things have escalated. Started off by him saying that I was beautiful, sweet... you get the idea. I don't hear these things at home so it felt good to hear them from somewhere. I have a very negative image of myself. We use to only talk over e-mail at work but now we chat over text.. Never why my husband is around. I can't explain it.. I have feelings for this guy but I'm not in love with him if that makes sense. He and I have talked several times about how much he likes me but doesn't't't want me to leave my husband.. Well no crap I'm not going to.
He keeps making comments about wanting to have sex with me. My husband is the only man I have ever been with. At first it was just a fun time talking to this guy. Hearing nice things and him putting a smile on my face. Although I've thought about doing things with him I can't imagine actually taking that next step. The most he and I have done is hug. He's tried to kiss me a few times but I always turn away. I don't know what to do next. He keeps telling me that he knows hes got me and I'll be giving it up soon. Tonight he text me and asked me if I was his girlfriend. Umm.. really? This guy is a major player and I know this. He has a soon to be ex wife that he just moved out from and a girlfriend that's 3 months pregnant. I just think that I'm in to deep now and I'm scared. I don't know what to do.
iamashley iamashley
26-30, F
2 Responses Nov 20, 2012

Don't BS yourself and us - you know what to do! Don't talk to this guy, don't text, don't answer texts, nothing. This guy is a major pig and you need to know that NOW. Do whatever it takes to get your head screwed on right again. Have a guy like this bonk you will hurt you more that you can now know..

Run don't walk how do you leave a woman that's three months preg if you proceed I would guess it would get around the office. I'm not judging I too have been really thinking about cheating but this seems like a bad match.