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I'm The Nicest Guy, But...

...I'll cheat on you, first chance I get. I've been cheating on the women in my life since before they were women (and before I was a man). I cheated on the "love of my life" in high school. But hell, even before that there were probably indications I was a cheater. I remember getting a phone call one evening when I was in the fourth grade. Tammy and Karen were both in my mixed 4th/5th grade class. They were both in the fifth grade, but the three of us were friends. One evening, Tammy calls me (it's weird for me now to think of myself getting a phone call in the 4th grade, at night, let alone for what Tammy was about to ask me). She tells me that both she and Karen "like" me, and which one did I like more? Thinking back, it was a presumptuous (and wholly accurate) thing to assume I'd like one of them at all, but I told her that of course it was her. So for several days after that, Tammy was my girlfriend (until I mucked it up as only a 4th grade boy can do). But the truth is, had it been Karen on the phone that evening asking me the same question, I would have chosen her instead. I was just so tickled that two girls were interested in me, I'd have chosen whomever was asking. And that's where I'm at now. Here I am, 37 years old, with a wife and a 1-year old son, and I've been having an affair off and on for 7 years. But it's worse than that; I've been screwing anything that'll have me for roughly that same amount of time. I've even had "emotional", ongoing relationships with several of the women I've been with. My wife knows, and we've separated several times. Most recently, we separated two weeks or so ago, after she found out I was still seeing the most recent - and arguably the most significant - of the "other women". I should point out we were driving home from the airport, wife my, son, and I, on our way back from my mother's funeral, when this all came out. Yeah, I know. I'm a douchebag. So I moved out of our apartment that day, and moved right in with my "mistress", whom I told I intended to make my....something. She said wife, but I'm not sure I ever actually agreed to that. No matter, though; it all blew up in my face tonight when my actual wife found out I was still screwing my "mistress" while still spending time with her and my son. So now I'm sitting in my empty, 1BR apartment, feeling sorry for myself and more than a little apprehensive about what tomorrow will bring. I'm also afraid my "mistress" will try to undermine my job security by ratting me out with my bosses for my affair. And I'm afraid my wife has actually quit on me, and on us. And finally, I'm afraid I'll never change, and that I'll be alone until I die. I wish I were back in the 4th grade.
NiceCheater NiceCheater 36-40 10 Responses Dec 17, 2012

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My non judgemental response- you know your faults , you can address them .Probably the best thing for you is to be on your own and tons of therapy. With all that you may regain control of your future. Recognizing what your future looks like as you sit there is your eye opener. I wish you the best - trully.

Find a trampy lady, fall in love with her and have an open relationship. Just make sure the other women know your circumstances, cause sleeping with a man and not knowing he has a partner until you find out later really sucks, and hurts too

Let me tell you something..i truly believe that some people are just not meant to be monogamous! Society today is sometimes so forward thinking and in things like faithfulness so backward...i myself couldn't imagine being with the same person for the rest of my life, simplybcause I've cone to know that one can love more than only one individual at a time! Yes it is possible! Now that doesn't mean that i love my actual boyfriend any less or crab like that, no not at all!!
Talking about thsee things with your spouse does wonders, but something like this can only work out when you're on the same page!!
Good luck to you and your family!!

This is such an interesting and entertaining post. I have a friend like you. He said he saw his mother cheat on his father when he was younger and as a result he's never trusted women. He cheats on every woman he dates. Have you considered counseling? Maybe talking to a professional who won't judge you will provide you with some answers.

U are an ******* i'm 28 and been married for 8 years I have 2 boys and hopefully a girl in the future!I have never once thought about cheating on him you bastard !!!!!!!

i've been married 21 years and i am just like you. I have slept with about 40 different women since my wife and i have been together.

Cheating is addicting, sometimes you do it because your selfish and sometimes because your getting something your not getting from your women. if things arnt too late for you and your wife, you need some hardcore will power. Dont put your self in situations that would make you want to cheat. Infact make a point to go out with your family more, do somethings you never did before. If you go a while without cheating you realize that its not worth all the bullshit that comes with it. Even if you dont get caught, all the secrets and lies and motions you set too keep from getting caught. Eventually your temptation should fade. If not mabey thats not,the women you really want to be with.

Cheating is addicting, sometimes you do it because your selfish and sometimes because your getting something your not getting from your women. if things arnt too late for you and your wife, you need some hardcore will power. Dont put your self in situations that would make you want to cheat. Infact make a point to go out with your family more, do somethings you never did before. If you go a while without cheating you realize that its not worth all the bullshit that comes with it. Even if you dont get caught, all the secrets and lies and motions you set too keep from getting caught. Eventually your temptation should fade. If not mabey thats not,the women you really want to be with.

have you ever asked yourself why you bothered to get married? I mean it is obvious she loves you, but by not being able to keep you **** in your pants, you show you don't really love her. I think you are so messed up you believe that when you are with these women they actually care about you. And maybe they do, but you seriously need to either let your wife find someone who deserves her, or man up and be someone that deserves her!

Grow up. Find God and stop making excuses.There's nothing wrong with you other than your selfish. You only care for yourself and if thats the case let your wife go and find someone who actually loves her.

While I don't disagree with much of what you're saying, I find your inability to correctly use possessive words and apostrophes to be appalling. You'd think God would have shown you punctuation somewhere in between Deuteronomy and Numbers.

Like I said grow up and, you really aren't all that nice. God Bless

I'm really not. And he really wasn't that drunk. God bless you, as well.

Never thought he was.

Well good luck with that.

Better than dying alone.

Touche'. But you can be sure he won't be alone regardless, right?

wont be my problem then lol

Amen. I'll drink to that (but always in moderation, and usually responsibly).

no fun in that. just ask my husband,but maybe thats how he roles too.

Eh, don't take me seriously. I'm just a cheating drunk whose run out of both women and beer. It's probably time to try and sleep it off.

Well I'm just a bored wife that no longer believes in much. I hope you figure your stuff out for yourself ,your kid and wife. I hope you change cause dying alone would suck. God bless honestly.

Oh shut up moonsyne. Finding God will do nothing for him. There are plenty of atheists who don't cheat on their spouses. And plenty of spiritual Pagans who can work out their marriages just fine with no divine intervention. He needs sex therapy and possibly castration.

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