I Am a Cheater

I Am A Woman Who Cheats Like A Man

By: pieceofcake509

Written on January 21st, 2013

Why don't I read about women who cheat like men? I understand why some men cheat. They don't get the passion they desire at home, so they look elsewhere. Everything else in the marriage is fine. They enjoy sex and even friendship with other women, but they can always walk away. It is like that with me, but I happen to be a woman. Am I the only one?

By: pieceofcake509

Age: 41-45 , Female

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25 responses

candigirl606

You are not the only one...I too felt like I cheated like a man, random sex with no feelings or emotional ties. I have had about 15 sexual affairs....all just sex until I met that 1 guy who changed that.
He touched me emotionally, made to me passionately completed changed my thoughts on affairs. You are not alone :-)

Apr 12
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- pieceofcake509
  Well, I am a liar. I just got burned. Live and learn, huh? Hang in there!
  
  Apr 12
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- Christinebitg
  What happened?
  
  May 1
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- pieceofcake509
  I kinda fell for one. It sucks when you like someone more than they like you. But I think it's more of a control thing than anything else. But it still hurts!! Oh, well. You play with fire, you eventually get burned ;)
  
  May 3
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Johnny3076

Nope because women out number men in affairs now

Mar 3
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Havefaithtw

Your not alone. I tend to get bored very easily. I like to keep it new hot n fresh... Switching up men seems to do the trick but I wonder if ill ever start a family and settle down.

Feb 7
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Ojitoslatinos

You are not alone....I would consider myself in the same boat as you....it's fun while it lasts, I love the attention I get! Minimal emotions involved, you get what you want, and in the end, go home to reality.
What I lack in sexual satisfaction @ home, I get with my "friend" in bed. We have a great relationship, and he knows my situation and has no problem with it. My husband is my best friend, but I am no longer satisfied sexually by him d/t weight gain, so even though we get along great, I need satisfaction elsewhere.

Feb 6
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312gurl

No, you are not the only one but you are honest enough to put it out there knowing there are critics who come to the "I am a cheater" group and judge. I don't understand the point when EP asks us to "please respond with authenticity, support, and respect". If you don't have anything nice to say go vent somewhere else. I don't seek out "I hate cheaters" group/stories and flame those people. Sheesh.

Jan 30
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confusedandupset

I haven't cheated yet, and probably wont anytime soon, but the problem is I know I will. I never want to be faithful. I have a great sex life and no complaints but I love attention from men, not just one man. What can I do to get over the guilt I know I'm going to feel if I cheat or what can I do to avoid cheating???

Jan 28
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- pieceofcake509
  I wish I knew the answer!
  
  Jan 28
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BNH1320

No you are not alone.

Jan 26
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Christinebitg

You're not the only one. Just one of the more honest ones. Many women do the same thing, but since it's considered less acceptable, they are more secretive.
I think it is similar to what happened when Kinsey published his second book, the one on female sexual behavior. There was a huge outcry and lots of uproar from moralistic people. But he was accurately describing real behavior. And you are too.

Jan 25
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secretaffair

No, you are not the only one. I am cheating my husband and I am perfectly fine with it.

Jan 23
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- pieceofcake509
  You bad girl ;)
  
  Jan 23
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- secretaffair
  Of course I am!
  
  Jan 23
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- cos12sine
  Secretaffair, you shouldn't be proud of it. It bespeaks of a problem, either with ur man or with yourself. And byebyeredbird, you should not concern yourself with such negatives to your predicament... Its pathetic, that one would be glad cheating on her or his spouse. If you are such a cheater, then why did you enter marriage in the first place? At the end of it all, when your beauty and charms fades, will you still have someone to have and hold, or will keep at it even till your death. Beauty, attraction, charms, fades, that is why marriage is life long so that one can be able to in ones old age have a companion. Meaningless sex will end, if it does what happens to you? Think about that!
  
  Jan 27
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- pieceofcake509
  @co12sine If i had a crystal ball 20 years ago, perhaps I wouldn't have gotten married. But it isn't cut and dry. I'm not willing to give up my marriage to have a little sex, but I'm not willing to give up sex either. So I do have my cake and eat it too - wrong or right. And who says it is meaningless? You have friends outside of marriage - I have mine. It's just a different kind of friendship. And it's not all about beauty and charms. Most people have such a hang up about sex, like it's the end all be all deal breaker. Funny nothing else is. I've never understood that.
  
  Jan 27
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- cos12sine
  @byebyeredbird, so you think having sex outside the secure walls of your marriage is meaningful? This is a poser for you, if you are so much of a cheater, having no strings attached to the men you cheat with, what becomes of you when you grow old? Or are you not planning of reaching there? Or maybe you think that you will eventually get to the point when companionship, in marriage will make better sense to you? You may say that you are living in the present, true. But what is a present without a future.
  Another poser, do you love your husband? Do you value your marriage? Or is he just a figure head and is your marriage make belief.
  
  Jan 30
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smooth6er

Thanks for your post,you hit the nail on the head as the saying goes. It is good to know there are some women out there that understand and even feel the same way.
You must be experiencing that lack of intimacy to know it though, sorry.

Jan 23
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WillSanders

It takes two. You're just honest with yourself. I get flamed all the time by people of both sexes for my attitudes. I figure half of them are just feeling guilty about doing something naughty themselves. All people are unique with their own feelings. I love sex as a function of friendship. I can play and walk away but prefer to play and stay friends with ladies I play with. I prefer married ladies and love to share a delicious little secret with them over a long period of time. You aren't the only lady to enjoy her flings. You're just fortunate to have the strength to be able to look back at them and smile instead of trying to judge yourself.

Jan 22
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hankypanky3

I have a female friend that was doing her boss when she got married. When she quit her job picked up lovers. Says she doesn't get attached. Doctors will tell you it is nearly impossible, as your brain gives off dopamine, when you are having pleasurable experiences. She claims she has never gotten attached, but sometimes the guys do, and she would end it. My wife also was sleeping with her boss and a friend. I didn't have a clue, so I think she can separate her emotions. She had affairs in her previous marriage as well. You are not alone, I know others who are having affairs. Maybe guys get less attached then females, but I think it is changing as females roles are changing.
Two of my nephews are stay home dads, as their wives have prof. careers.

Jan 22
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Ktstime

If that works for you, great! Most women aren't wired that way, IMHO.

Jan 22
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- Peterbilt1955
  I agree...but you have to appreciate the honesty of the post.
  
  Jan 22
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- Ktstime
  Oh, i appreciate the the honesty- good for her.
  
  Jan 22
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Peterbilt1955

No I think not... Just most won't put it out there as you have....:)

Jan 21
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