I have a very similar story to trapt. I am 24 now and my father has always been abusive toward my mother and me. Actually I confronted him and my mother about it just yesterday. And he denies it all. He's denied holding a knife to my throat, denied pullin mr around by my hair. Denied choking me, denied whipping me. My mother explains it all away by saying that it was my fault for misbehaving. She has forgotten when he used to hit her, and do the same with me Cowering in the corner. I asked her straight why she stayed with him and proceeded to have two more children with this monster. She tld me it's her choice and none of my business. And she has been completely brainwashed by my father that he did the **** he did because I was a "problem child". I understand trapt's yearning for a normal pair of parents. I do too.