Mother’s Day Blues

So mother’s day has come & gone. I find myself a little sad. The cards make me sad. All the cards in the store go on & on about how good mom is, how gracious & kind, how loving & supporting. The many sacrifices she made for you. How grateful you are to have her in your life. No card fits my situation. You were crazy when I was a kid, at least you didn’t kill me. That is about the nicest thing I can think to say. Other people just love my mother, they think she is great. She is so supportive & kind to them will go out of her way to help them. That’s great for them, not so great for me. Everyone else thinks she is wonderful, can’t understand why we aren’t closer. On more than one occasion I have been introduced to someone my mom works with only to have them say I didn’t know you had a daughter? I only ever here you talk about your sons. To which I usually replay that’s because I’m the good one. I never get in any trouble & never cause any trouble. Mom never has reason to worry about me, so I guess she doesn’t talk about me that much. Seems the nicest thing to say, I’m not really sure what to say in that situation. Just a sad situation I guess. Of 4 children I’m the only daughter, her co-workers know all about her sons, but don’t even know she has a daughter. I don’t want to lie, but to tell people the whole truth would make them very uncomfortable. Like I said they just don’t have a card to cover my situation.
beyourself789 beyourself789
31-35, F
1 Response May 17, 2012

I know it's hard but what I would suggest is for you to realize that you are a grown woman now with a life of her own and you just don't need your mother anymore. At least that's what I try to do now regarding my parents, especially my dad who abused me as a child. Sometimes I hold on to a fantasy of what it could be like to have a dad who treated me with REAL love and respect and it makes me sad to think like that, and then I wake up and realize that it's just a fantasy and I must try to live in the real world and be my own self and try hard to make something of myself, it's very difficult because my wounds have not healed yet but at least I try because I know I deserve something better. I recommend you do the same. You deserve it!