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I Am a Child Abuse Survivor

But The Tall Policeman Didn'T Listnen

By: 69viv
Written on February 3rd, 2013
By: 69viv
Age: 41-45 , Female
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  • parakeet8157

    Sorry you went through that. I briefly dated a man who I later on found out was taking pictures of young girls that lived in my area>:{

    2 days ago
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    • 69viv

      that would have been a shock! I hope you were able to report him...
      Thank you for having read my story..and responded to it..

      2 days ago
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    • parakeet8157

      I reported him, they picked him up at the place I'd met him at. They couldn't chardge him:o Not enough eveidence. shaking head STILL.

      1 day ago
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    • 69viv

      You did the right thing, thank you... The system failed the children...again!!

      1 day ago
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  • SimplyRaining

    You were treated like a piece of meat. But you aren't mad at the man.

    a week ago
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    • 69viv

      No, I just feel sad for the other little girls he had done that too as well...

      a week ago
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  • MarquiseDelirium

    Why didn't you tell your parents? Couldn't they help in any way?
    I feel so angry right now that such thing could happens and a police man just stands there like a ****. My point is prove then...police men and detectives are only heroes in novels and movies. Don't trust the real ones...

    a week ago
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  • Ivanrish

    i wish if i could meet that person. surly that day will be end of his life.

    Apr 30
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    • 69viv

      I understand whats you feel, but i dont agree with revange..

      Apr 30
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    • Ivanrish

      i also don't like that my friend but what if still you are sick of that day??
      this is not just revenge to kill him or any such thing but he should be behind bars for the rest of his life, so that he would could understand what he has done to a 8 year old girl.

      you are now who is saying him to forgive but as a 8yr old girl it's right to punish him.

      Apr 30
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    • 69viv

      Yes he belongs behind bars so he doesn't hurt other kids..

      Apr 30
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    • Ivanrish

      evil on this planet

      Apr 30
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  • Trengo

    these things really shouldn't happen. i'm really sorry for you. i understand you need to get it out, and you need to be assured it was not your fault, it was never your fault (or sandra's).
    wish you all the best, you are in my thoughts.

    Apr 29
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    • 69viv

      Thank you so much.

      Apr 29
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  • MrSquishy

    I shocked this happened to you, but I am even more shocked that the policeman ignored you.
    If he had listened this evil man could have been put away.

    Apr 12
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    • 69viv

      Yes put away.. It might be strange for me to say that, but I feel more hurt that he certainly abused other little girls for years...than what he did to me...
      Sometimes my kids do something I don't want them to, and then I tell them off..they say:"But you said I could!" Which means I hadn't listen to them when they asked me and I just said yes to get rid of them for 5 minutes.. Maybe that's what that policeman did...just thought I was talking about anything.. I still think it was a set up from my friends parents.. I know their names, tried to find them thorough FB, but no success.. I don't wish them harm..but I just want to understand... Sorry for writing so much.. Just got a bit (!) carried away.. ;)

      Apr 12
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    • MrSquishy

      Its okay Viv I don't mind you talking about it...it must be such s burden to carry..it must come out at times.
      I work with young children and I am very sensitive to the subject.

      Apr 12
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    • Trengo

      you were so young. are you sure it was a setup? who would do something like that? you know, children can be quite cruel, and at that age, perhaps she was afraid for herself, but sent you anyway

      Apr 29
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  • YB01

    Have they helped you to let go of the past?

    Mar 12
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  • YB01

    Will you see a therapist ?

    Mar 12
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    • 69viv

      I have been seen them for 25 years and still going...

      Mar 12
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  • rolllerskatekey

    sad

    Mar 6
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    • 69viv

      Thank you for having read it... :)

      Mar 6
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  • 69viv

    My friend was a victim from others.. I don't think she realised what she was doing... Thank you for understanding me...

    Feb 22
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  • DallasCowboysFan

    I don't know who I am more mad with, the guy in the car, the policeman, your friend or the parents involved. It seems like everyone in your life let you down.

    Take Care.

    Feb 22
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  • SFcolonel

    It takes a brave, strong person to put this out for all to see.
    Moving life experience that never leaves.
    I hope in posting your pain you can take some comfort in the possibility that some parent who reads this may reinforce the lesson of 'don't take rides with strangers' and in so doing, may save a child from the harsh realities you faced when you were young and innocent.

    Feb 19
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    • 69viv

      That's very right, I never thought of it that way.. Thank you for making me realise that.. :)

      Feb 19
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  • NedKelly1

    very brave lady for opening up her heart and soul no child should ever be abused

    Feb 11
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    • 69viv

      That makes a lot to me.. Thank you Ned...xx

      Feb 12
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  • Dilshans1982

    How can this mean thing happen? It is unbelievable that you have had to go through such a sad experience. It must be having a deep effect and scars will not heal at all. I wish I could give you a cuddle. In the best sense I mean.

    Feb 9
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  • redmaple

    Thanks for sharing a painful story.

    Feb 7
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    • 69viv

      Thank you for reading it.. :)

      Feb 7
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  • Maz1980

    That is a horrible thing that happened to you. The main thing to remember is that u were a child that was vulnerable and he abused that. It could never in any way been ur fault. I don't know what makes some men find a child attractive maybe it's the innocence there attracted to. I have thought on this topic for many years and do not truly think that people like that could be rehabilitated and that they are a massive danger to all vulnerable children.

    Feb 7
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  • sleepingforever

    Aquarius3 that was rude. Viv69 sorry this happened to you. I hope your doing well xx

    Feb 6
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    • 69viv

      Thank you.. I did cry a lot over his comment.. Thank you so much for caring.. It means a lot to me.. Thank you.

      Feb 6
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    • steed66

      Children are innocent, regardless of should know better, or have more common sense kind of comments. I know that you was upset. We care about you

      Feb 6
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  • aquarius3

    Interesting story. it's not wise to go in strangers vehicles. Anyone with a bit of common sense knows that. I don't rate up stories now cause it costs tokens to do so

    Feb 5
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    • 69viv

      I know its not wise, but back then I was a little girl, and I used to do ,(had to do) what my bullying friend told me. I have common sense now.. Why does your comment make me feel it was all my fault? And I really feel hurt..
      Thank you for having taken the time to read it..

      Feb 5
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    • willyg2013

      I can't believe you wrote that comment. This website is about supporting people, not putting them down. And she was only a child then.

      Feb 6
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    • willyg2013

      Don't let her comment effect you viv69

      Feb 6
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    • 69viv

      very well said!!

      Feb 6
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    • 69viv

      Thank you for your support.. You are my Friend..

      Feb 6
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    • Sean8342

      Children don't have a fully developed 'common sense', that's why they are recognised at law as CHILDREN!.
      Pre around 1980 children were not told why they needed to be wary of strangers or about inappropriate touching (most abuse is committed by a person the child knows and trusts).
      Aquarius3 is clearly blissfully ignorant of the topic from the victim's viewpoint.... so 'nice' for him....

      Feb 6
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    • weirdcolor

      aquarius3, you can't expect an 8-year-old child to have common sense.
      Children may still believe in Santa Claus and in horoscopes.
      That's why parents tell children 'don't accept candies from strangers' - because children don't have yet the ability to decide by themselves which strangers they can trust and which ones they can't.
      And rating up a story for the first time doesn't cost any token.

      Feb 7
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  • ideabrunch

    I read about an absolutely wonderful story. 2 kids made a fb page to get their mother quit smoking. See for yourself:

    WE ARE STEFAN & SASHA. WE LOVE MUM! AND WE WANT HER TO SEE US GROW UP. SO, SHE HAS TO STOP SMOKING. AND SHE PROMISED THAT IF WE GET 10000 LIKES FOR THIS PAGE SHE WILL STOP AT ONCE. HELP US! LIKE & SHARE!


    http://www.facebook.com/pages/Help-Our-Mum-Stop-Smoking/333138033454859

    Feb 4
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  • Treyt

    Oh man, thank you for sharing this story. In glad you could do so with something so private and personal. Guys like that should be shot. I hope the rest of your life is filled with much more happiness from now on.

    Feb 4
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    • 69viv

      Thank you.. I will be ok.. :)

      Feb 4
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  • weirdcolor

    I admire your courage in sharing this story.
    Such people don't realize how much damage they can do to an innocent child.

    Feb 4
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    • 69viv

      Some do know, some don't . I think some were victims too as kids and they are the mentally sick.. The others they are just vicious and selfish and make money out of using children... Thank you my friend.. I am smiling at you. :)

      Feb 5
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    • weirdcolor

      Thank you for smiling at me :)

      Feb 6
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  • sasuke111

    So much jerks out there..

    Feb 4
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  • mycuzinvinni

    i can,t understand how ppl can do such things and think nothing of it he belongs in jail so he does not hurt anyone else i am sorry for your suffering i have been abused to but in a different way and no one deserves to be abused by anyone lol vinny

    Feb 4
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  • sweetwolf

    so sorry hope ur doing better

    Feb 3
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    • 69viv

      Thank u, will one day... But I am ok.. :)

      Feb 6
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    • sweetwolf

      good glad ur doing better

      Feb 6
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  • 2011A

    What do you mean they were selling her to your dad? Unclear. This is horrendous. Adults need to listen to children. They rarely lie, Thank you for posting this. Did you ever get counselling because I still feel your pain...? Do you help people now?

    Feb 3
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    • 69viv

      My dad was a child molester.. I am still getting help.. I am here for anyone that needs me but if they had child abuse, I would listen and comfort them of course.. Thank you for caring.. :)

      Feb 3
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    • 2011A

      You are easy to care about....Was he jailed? You are welcome. You are a survivor. Hugssssssssssssssssssssssssss of the grizzly variety.

      Feb 3
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    • 69viv

      Thank you.. He was in jail for fraud when I was 2.. For 11 months.
      He had to stay at the police station for 2 weeks when I was 15, as someone put a complaint against him.. That was all.. What does "of the grizzly variety" mean?

      Feb 3
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    • 2011A

      a strong hug. full of tenderness and love. and you do not have contact with him now? where is your mother?

      Feb 3
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  • HardingP119

    It takes courage to write. Thank you for sharing your sad experience. My hugs to you.

    Feb 3
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    • 69viv

      Thank you my friend... xx

      Feb 3
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  • smartlove007

    Such persons not only to be put behind the bars but at the same time they should be made realised 'bout the cruelty towards adolescent...

    Feb 3
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  • pcass22

    So what became of your friend?

    Feb 3
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    • 69viv

      We moved out of that village and the next summer, my mum had a good friend of hers coming on holiday with us and my dad had Sandra coming with us... I hated it... My dad kept contact with her family, as he said one day that she was getting married, she wa 19... That was the last time I heardof her.. Its much later that I realise she was a victim of abuse too.. I wish I could get im contact with her..

      Feb 3
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  • leadthoumeon09

    I was so depressed before reading your story and now I feel like crying and dying. Life is indeed a useless journey...

    Feb 3
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    • Obsequity

      Life is not a useless journey. The things we have experienced come to make us who we are now. We learn something from everything in life. Horrible, unjust, awful things happen that just SHOULDN'T happen, ALL the time. It's happened to me. But the incredible thing is, we have the strength to overcome it, and move on.. make better of our lives. That is what makes life an amazing journey.

      Feb 3
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    • 69viv

      I totally agree with you. It make us stronger, and we are survivors not victims... Well done Obsequity!

      Feb 3
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    • Sean8342

      The validity and reason of life isn't the issue, the abuse from one person in power over another is, that just shouldn't happen. Why do some people feel they have the right to do things like this? The only way to stop it is for everyone to be switched on and aware. If children are allowed to be in such situations then they need to be aware that there are people looking to take advantage of them. Read Viv's story again, it's a positive story of survival and overcoming adversity.

      Feb 4
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  • pisces1987

    I am sorry that you had to go through all that. I cannot even imagine what growing up after child abuse incident feels like. You are really brave. I hope yougot over it.

    Feb 3
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    • 69viv

      Please read what obsequity wrote... I didnt want to make you sad. To be honest I cant read that kind of stories myself as I would feel really down too... But now I am married and have four beautiful children...Take care.. :)

      Feb 3
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