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I Am a Childless Stepmom

I Give You All Credit

By: Pormisere
Written on August 15th, 2011
Because I know no one else does. It's a hard road. And usually a thankless job (to varying degrees). I love my stepkids and couldn't imagine life without them- but life with their mom (and knowing she is the 1st to my 2nd) ....is just not an easy road.
By: Pormisere
Age: 22-25 , Female
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  • rebeccabebe89
    rebeccabebe89

    I am just thankful I am not the only person dealing with this whole mess of things.

    I too enjoy my boyfriends son, but his mother makes my life difficult with him and my boyfriend.



    I think it's obnoxious when any person makes a comment like that, you may not be a biological mother, but you are still helping raise a child that is also part of your husbands/boyfriends. That makes you a mother of some kind-- and if you love/care for the child and the child loves and cares back, that's a definite bond.

    Aug 17, 2011
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  • rknst74
    rknst74

    I think you venting on here is a good thing.It sounds like you are a great mom.Hard not to be affected by statements like that but I hope you can cope with comments like that.

    Aug 15, 2011
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  • Pormisere
    Pormisere

    They did. It is a thankless job because I get to hear "Well, when you're a MOM..." because in no one's eyes does stepmom count. And I get a lot of "Well you don't have to do X,Y, or Z, they aren't YOUR kids.,.." That kind of thankless. And it's a hard road because I am cleaning up another woman's messes. All the time. Glad you enjoy my posts! lol The things I post in this particular group may lean a BIT towards venting... =) Maybe.

    Aug 15, 2011
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  • rknst74
    rknst74

    Oh sorry I think I misread your story,I take my statements back.I thought by you saying it is a thankless job meant you do all you can but...and that it is a hard road meant something too.I just read into it too much,very sorry.I do enjoy your post btw.

    Aug 15, 2011
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  • Pormisere
    Pormisere

    .... I said nothing in this post about my treatment of them. And they already do appreciate all I do and have done for them. That does not make this life choice any easier on me personally. All I said that I give a lot of credit to people who do not have children but put themselves out there and care for and help raise children that will only ever call them by their first name. I'm sorry your stepfather was a tyrant.

    Aug 15, 2011
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  • rknst74
    rknst74

    I grew up in a step family and it is not easy.I had a tyrant fro a step dad too.I think the best you can do is treat them as well as you can and a little better if possible.They will appreciate it in the end.Thanks for sharing your stories.

    Aug 15, 2011
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