How Do You 'come Out'??

i am a clost lesbian...obv. and im open bout it on stuff like this where nobody knows me but in real life situations i really am struggling to 'come out'. I have told my best mates but it took me quite a long time to pluck up the courage to go for it and couldnt say it to their faces for fear of disapproval. I have tried on a number of occasions to tell a friend that i work with and look up to in life, however, when the time comes i always back down. I want to tell my family also, so i no longer have to pretend to be someone im not. but...pretty much my whole family are homophobes and hate gays, my dad is the worst, he hates homosexuality. i know alot of gays/lesbians have trouble like this and i just wondered if anyone had any suggestions on how i could come out

Thanks for reading


girlsandguitars girlsandguitars
13-15, F
4 Responses Feb 17, 2009

It all depends if you're financially dependent on your parents. If you are, it would be best if you waited until you can comfortably take care of yourself. If you're not financially dependent on them, however, you should tell them whenever you feel comfortable. My advice on that is to not tell everyone at the same time. The mixed reactions would be overwhelming. I haven't told my parents yet because I'm financially dependent on them since i'm in school, and will be for 5 or 6 more years. <br />
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By the way, Shane is my favorite character from The L Word (you're profile pic). You should read my story that I wrote in this same Closet Lesbian category. It's partly about The L Word.<br />
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I hope this helps.

I waited until I found a woman and fell in love with her. Your family and friends will get the picture when you start spending lots of time together. Be ready to blush when they ask you THE question. You know....the one about whether or not you two are together. Tell them when YOU are ready.

Hi, love your profile pic! The L word rocks!!!<br />
Anyway...<br />
Re: the girl at work, maybe try bringing up the topic of homosexuality to her and see how she reacts? I haven't told any of my friends, but I KNOW that at least 2 of them don't give a damn about whether people are straight or gay, I've already sussed that out! Hehe, makes it easier for when I do tell them!<br />
It's tough hey.<br />
Hang in there, the time will be right at some point. Until then, just be comfortable in your own skin xxx

I’m sorry I don’t have any advice, but feel as though I am in the same boat as you. I am surprised/ encouraged that you came out to some of your mates, coming out to my friends is actually the thing I am most terrified about.