Do I Act On My Urges?

I've been bisexual as long as I can remember. I've always connected with men easier because I felt comfortable around them. Less threatened.

I did try to date a girl once and I was a "Gentleman" as you'd say and didn't do more than kiss her. I was trying to be respectful until I found out one day that she had been telling everyone I wasn't really Bi because I hadn't made a move. Truth is, I didn't feel anything beyond sexual attraction to her. It really hurt me in a way I didn't expect.

Since then I've kissed girls and tried for more only to be turned down because they were "straight". I was just an experiment to them. A way to make their boyfriends excited.

I finally met my boyfriend who is an amazing guy. I know I want to spend the rest of my life with him. Unlike my big ALL straight family he knows I am bi and supports me. Although I don't think he realizes just how attracted I am to women. It's the only thing that works for me in my private time.

I've become restless lately and really want to experience being with a woman just to be sure that it wont become an issue later in our relationship. I feel he'd be more open to be having a sexual experience with a women now than after we have children. I'm not sure how this would work or if it would only do more damage to the relationship... Any Advice?
adelicateflower adelicateflower
1 Response Nov 25, 2012

Stay with the one you love the most. Don't worry about your label. It's difficult to find a woman to explore the sex part of bisexuality with no strings - but not impossible. But that's not what you need to explore vis-a-vis your relationship to women. It's the spiritual, ineffable, love relationship. I dated a woman first and she never thought I was gay. 4 years later I was with a man and I decided I preferred it. But if you are in love with one, I would not want to explore love with another, because the love thing is more important than the label thing, IMHO.