I Was Born Codependent

My mother was an alcoholic. My husband of 29 years is an alcoholic. My daughter is a recovering drug addict who has recently been diagnosed with bipolar. I live with my husband and daughter and I needless to say I'm at my wits end.

I would like some advice. My husband is extremely depressed and I am trying to get him to go see a counselor. He refuses says he doesn't see the point. He really hasn't admitted to himself he is an alcoholic he thinks he could quit if he wanted to. He says his beer is his anti depressant. Some people take pills I drink beer, it makes me feel better.....yeah right.

I'm at a point where I don't want to live like this anymore. I love him and I want to work things out but if he refuses to get help what am I supposed to do. Please don't tell me to go to alanon, been there done that. It's not my thing.
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2 Responses Jan 17, 2013

seriously gal... at that age??? hard to change.. he has to WANT to change by himself....

If you are suffering.. there is only one thing to do... get out before it gets worse.. no point you suffereing cos of him.

At his age it may be that there will be little you can do to change him. Change, after all, comes from within. If his habits interfere and start to impact your wellbeing then it may come to pass that you just have to say nay enough and force change before he drags you down with him. Try to approach him first when he is sober and not stressed and gently suggest how much better life would be for him, the things he could be doing instead of that.