NOTE: I have recently found love. I'll just leave this story up will people will know that they're not alone.

Romantic failure? Not really. I just love but am never loved back. Part of me says "Give it up, it's pointless loving anymore if nobody loves you back." but the other is saying "Just hang on, You'll get you're chance soon enough." I want to believe the second 1. I always tell people to hang on and never give up, so I would be a downright hypocrite if I gave up, but I just keep feeling worse. I know giving up will stop me from ever finding what I want. But Im at war with myself and in love with my best friend who doesnt love me back in that way.
DGSteele DGSteele
26-30, M
1 Response May 7, 2012

In all honesty I don't know if there is a such thing as the fairy tale "one true love." What I do know is love, any kind of love is special and something to be cherished. At times it may hurt but it always gives you something to take away from it. The problem is that most people don't know when to let go and often end up becoming bitter because of the pain. If it hurts too much then let this love go because you won't be able find someone who loves you if you can't get past this experiance. When you do decide what to do just remember to take the good from this relationship and let the bad go. Life is to short to be bitter, I hope things work out for you =)

Its not the fact that it hurts that she doesnt love me, its the fact that nobody does in that way right now. I cant let go of her because just the memory is keeping me a little happy. If the time comes where I have to, I will. But I just cant for now.

Then don't let go of her yet. But don't go giving up on finding somebody either. Like you said you may not have somebody right now but that doesn't mean you won't in the future. The key is to keep yourself open and not shut people out. Also it may seem difficult when you’re feeling sad or hurt but if you start doing things you enjoy, slowly things will start getting better. Besides you can never know what will happen next in life. Speaking from personal experience rough patches, especially rough emotional patches, generally precede drastic positive changes in life. My theory is that though these times make us miserable they teach us something so we are ready for the good that comes our way