Hurting Everyone Around Me

I'm not quite sure where to start. I started making up lies when I was in middle school so I wouldn't have to deal with getting in trouble for making mistakes. Of course the truth always comes out. I still lie, but its always about stupid little things. It's like I can't control what is coming out of my mouth, it has almost become instinctual. I don't even think about it when I do it, it just happens. I am trying to seek some kind of a support group because I am unemployed and can not afford health care of mental health services. I am tired of lying. I have been in a relationship for five and half years now and I am absolutely in love with my now fiancé. The lying is destroying my relationship, which is the one thing in this world that really matters to me. I'm becoming incredibly depressed because I keep lying about the dumbest little things, where there is no rhyme or reason to be lying in the first place. I am hoping that joining this online forum will help me with this terrible habbit. Has anyone ever though about starting local support groups? I would love to sit with people who go through the same things that I do on a regular basis. Whoever may be interested please leave comments and maybe we can find a way to make this happen. Thank you for reading and if anyone has any advice to stop this terrible habbit it will be greatly appreciated.
Alister86 Alister86
1 Response Jan 21, 2013

Hi Alister,
To understand some of the reasons why you lie, I recommend you read my article on why lying addicts lie. It will help you understand some of the psychology you are going through.

I have also wrote a Kindle book called "When Truth is Not Enough: Insights into the Minds of Lying Addicts" by Billi Caine which will give you further understandings into what is going on with you.

In relation to support groups, a woman called Laura O has started a Liars Anonymous site (based on the 12 steps) but they have no online or offline meetings yet as it is still very early days of their inception. They wanted their first conference to be this year but it is being cancelled as Laura will be too heavily pregnant to attend. Here's their link anyway so you can keep in touch with when things start developing meeting/ support group wise.

Keep the faith. There is hope and their is help.
Billi Caine