Control Freak Story
First off, I am a control freak. However, if there was a scale from 1-10, I'm not so sure how I'd be rated? I've been married a little over a year but have been with my husband for 5 1/2 years now. Since the beginning, he told me I was controlling, always wanting to know where he is, what he is doing, who he is talking to... we thought it would pass. Well, after getting married, turns out some things are just a part of you that you cannot shake. If he comes home later than I expected, I get "control freaked" on him. If he is texting or e-mailing, I constantly have to know who it is or else I get nervous. I grew up with a controlling mother towards my father. She would flip if home 10 minutes late. She would tell him what to eat, how much to eat, when to eat, when to go to bed, when to shower, when he could eat desert. If he went to eat desert on his own, she would yell at him. I felt awful for my dad. She told him what plans they were allowed to make and when. I'm not THAT bad. I think I'm controlling with social issues as I said, who is he talking to, who is he with, etc, etc. We fight about it but it happens again and I just don't know how to shake it or what to do or how to make it go away. I just bought some books about it. Maybe I should see a therapist, who knows. Any advice?