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I Am A Crossdresser And I Like Me

Not Fond Of Titles

By: MrsJoanieBNH
Written on February 12th, 2012
But by all descriptions and definitions, that is exactly what I am! I'm really pissed that a label should matter, or carry such a derogatory meaning to some even in our own community. I was born this way. I am what I am. I'm not deficient in means or attitude because I am what the world perceives as different then the norm. I take no hurt or ill feeling towards those who call me one, as in their mind that is what I am, and what I do, and if they can't expand or broaden their minds, I ain't loosin' sleep over it. I so prefer that people don't stop there, and look beyond that label, ask me questions, seek to know the me that is behind the clothing. I'm not naive! I know that people are uncomfortable with my persona, this shouldn't and doesn't make me less in my mind. Yes, I'm comfortable I like me, I have purpose, I have responsibility, I have desires, I honor others, I respect peoples differences as I would want them to respect mine. It's a label that for some sells us short and it's a label for others that lifts us up. Wear your dress like you own it girls, if you don't someone's gona steal your life away from you.
By: MrsJoanieBNH
Age: 56-60 , Transgender
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  • Kim1girl
    Kim1girl

    Labels tend to put (funny, I keep ending up typing "out", instead of put) all of us in boxes. I don't like being boxed because I tend to be fluid. It's interesting, but it's been a very savvy 20 year old who considers herself naive but who has so eloquently reminded me it's the person that counts, not the gender. I gravitate to the people who I like and respect, regardless of the label attached to them.

    Jan 11
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    • MrsJoanieBNH
      MrsJoanieBNH

      I love naivety, it's refreshingly educational! I think mostly because it's more fun, nice and respectable about having something out of it's box and has yet been hardened by the trials of life. At least it is when your looking to play with friends rather then limit their potential.

      Jan 11
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  • gown1000
    gown1000

    I am a guy who thinks of myself as almost entirely male, but I love wearing long silky nightgowns (Miss Elaine is my favorite right now), secondarily slips and panties.

    May 16, 2012
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    • MrsJoanieBNH
      MrsJoanieBNH

      Awesome! I bet your evenings are filled with sweet dreams. I'm a Yoga pant cami kinda girl.

      May 17, 2012
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  • CDralph2010
    CDralph2010

    Joanie, labels can be useful or destructive. Like any tool, it's a matter of how they are used. I identify as a crossdresser in order to find others like me and share our interests. Yet the same term can also be used as a derogatory name, or to divide people who should be united under the common cause of supporting one another.



    By that I mean how stupid it is when I see straight CDs, gays, full TS's, etc. all bad-mouthing one another for not being exactly alike. You're a guy who thinks of yourself as mostly female? Great. I'm a guy who thinks of myself as mostly male, only I happen to like wearing dresses. Glad to know you!

    May 14, 2012
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    • MrsJoanieBNH
      MrsJoanieBNH

      I also think it's necessary to figure out what your own label is. It falls into the desire of knowing ones self. The wrong is when others feel the need to put a label on you. Oh and don't get me going on the cattiness of the T folk. The leader board mentality, with some exceptions, is the one reasons I so prefer hanging out with people outside of the T community.

      May 17, 2012
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  • pleatedgirly
    pleatedgirly

    I love wearing my girlie outfits with pride and I take great trouble to seek perfection when dressed out doors . If you look good ,you feel so good and it's worth it .

    May 14, 2012
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    • MrsJoanieBNH
      MrsJoanieBNH

      Thanks for commenting in my story! It's funny, I had to go back and read it again. I guess I must have been in some mood that day, LOL! But it's so true, if we are prideful in ourselves what label we are doesn't matter. It only reflects on the ignorance of the person doing the labeling.

      May 14, 2012
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    • CDralph2010
      CDralph2010

      LOL, you'd hate to be around me! There are far too many things I take pride in, but how I dress isn't one of them... I dress entirely for comfort. The result is a gorilla in a fluffy satin gown -- not a pretty sight at all!

      May 17, 2012
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