Compromises

So here's a response from the "other" side. That is the side that doesn't worry about offending the 'wife.' I was married and have dated MANY women. All my long term GF's knew of my Fem side. Most weren't very happy about it. I'd say that is more often the case. I've given up on looking for women to be my life partner and accept me. My kids know now that they are older so I can really make my life as I want. However, being able to do as I wish has created a whole new set of questions. Do I REALLY want to be dolled up all day? Do I really want to become so fem that most straight women wouldn't be interested in me? Female society is very competitive girls. Ladies are not as nice as men when competing for attention and will pull out all the stops. I've dated men too, and gotta say, women are far more loyal as partners. Men are, well.. dogs. Looking for something deeper once you've changed genders? Any lady will tell you, it ain't all that easy and there's more to female life then bras, panties and make-up! Real companionship is a valuable commodity.

I think once the kids are grown, you have to follow what your heart wants. But to be sure, talk to those who have changed their sex, find out what is involved and see if you are prepared for it.

Even though I do not want to live as a woman full time, I enjoy wearing lingerie around the house. I wear panties 24/7 and wear nightgowns a few times a week. I told my current wife within a week of meeting her, and even though she supports me she does not participate with me. Wearing lingerie relaxes me (not sure why), and it is hard to explain to my wife why I enjoy wearing lingerie so much.

It's just a broken record for all of us, isn't it? Same here, would love to be a full woman all the time. So tired of the charade. We all know what it takes to live our dream, we are just scared of hurting and losing those that we love and that love us. Why would anybody in their right mind choose to be us!?!?

Hon,

I think that when you read many of our profiles and stories you will find how many of us are in similar situations. In my personal case it is a combination of marriage and of my called life as a minister that often causes the hiding. I believe that given the right opportunity I could live my life fully as Regina. Maybe one day.



Hugs

Your comment "I feel so calm and peaceful when I'm girled up." is often what the psychiatrists pick up on when diagnosing gender identity disorder. That and the lack of sexual arousal are the two keys.

I so understand sweetie. I can't stop either. I've sworn it off and purged many times. I always come back to my panties and hose. I literally get the shakes if I go to long without dressing up girlie. I wake up in the middle of the night and MUST dress up. This is how I got caught the first time. It did not go well.



When I dress I feel complete, happy, and relaxed. It is wonderful.



I long for it, dream about it and do it every chance I get. I wear something pretty every day. I keep shaved from head to toe. I'd love to go full time but I'd probably loose my wife. That price is to high, so I continue to hide it.

Me too. I feel so calm and peaceful when I'm girled up. It's like my life is finally in order.

I know what you are going through. I know the pain. I am in a very similar situation but the girl in me is crying to come out.

I know how you are feeling. I am in a similar situation, although I don't think I could commit to becoming a woaman full time.