I Am a Crossdresser
This story is true of my current relationship with my girlfriend and I hope that it will be seen as sound advice material for others.
Two of the biggest qualities for relationships are patience and communication. I had been with my girlfriend for almost two years when I first told her that I liked to wear women's underwear. I was so nervous that I had to write the confession down on a piece of paper and couldn't look at her while she read it. I had been trying to tell her that night for about half an hour until she suggested me writing it down. After she had read the note, we talked for a long time about the usual things like am I gay, did I want to be a girl, why I like doing it, how long and so on. We didn't have any more serious talks for awhile on the subject as long as she knew that I loved her and that I wasn't gay. After a while we could joke a bit about it, and as we got more comfortable talking about it I told her that I would like to wear a pair under my pants when she was around. She said that it would be ok, but I wasn't to expect her to just be completely accepting of it right away. And that was what happened I wore a pair when she was there and she knew it and asked if I would change, which I did. A short time later after talking about it, I encouraged her to set up some rules for my "hobby" which I would agree to. This worked really well, it got her more comfortable in the fact that she knew we could move as fast as she needed. We kept up with the conversations and continued to discuss the rules and the goals that I wanted with her. That being eventual total acceptance but my concessions to move only as fast as she can handle. Some of the ground rules were no wearing any of her panties. no wearing string bikinis or thongs and no panties with lots of lace, and no pink. These worked well for both of us since it meant that I could still indulge my fetish and she knew that I wouldn't go further than she could handle. Another while later she has relaxed a bit with the rules involving her undies and lace kinda even the thong rule. She has grown to the point where she accepts and doesn't mind much with the panties I wear as long as I follow the rules we set together. Most recently we bought a set of PJ's from VS to share, and she has even bought me a couple of pairs and we have been starting to joke together about bras and hosiery. And she has given me a pair of her old jeans to wear as long as I don't wear them around her and other people. She continues to tell me she is scared that she will never accept it as much as I hope and worries that I will leave her because of it. I am always reassuring and I try to make her feel confident that I will always love her. There is always a lot of conversation between us about my fetish and that has made shopping quite enjoyable for us whether online, in the stores, for me or for her. Communicating is very important, and our relationship has been going on for 8+ years now, 6 of them after the note was written.
Two of the biggest qualities for relationships are patience and communication. I had been with my girlfriend for almost two years when I first told her that I liked to wear women's underwear. I was so nervous that I had to write the confession down on a piece of paper and couldn't look at her while she read it. I had been trying to tell her that night for about half an hour until she suggested me writing it down. After she had read the note, we talked for a long time about the usual things like am I gay, did I want to be a girl, why I like doing it, how long and so on. We didn't have any more serious talks for awhile on the subject as long as she knew that I loved her and that I wasn't gay. After a while we could joke a bit about it, and as we got more comfortable talking about it I told her that I would like to wear a pair under my pants when she was around. She said that it would be ok, but I wasn't to expect her to just be completely accepting of it right away. And that was what happened I wore a pair when she was there and she knew it and asked if I would change, which I did. A short time later after talking about it, I encouraged her to set up some rules for my "hobby" which I would agree to. This worked really well, it got her more comfortable in the fact that she knew we could move as fast as she needed. We kept up with the conversations and continued to discuss the rules and the goals that I wanted with her. That being eventual total acceptance but my concessions to move only as fast as she can handle. Some of the ground rules were no wearing any of her panties. no wearing string bikinis or thongs and no panties with lots of lace, and no pink. These worked well for both of us since it meant that I could still indulge my fetish and she knew that I wouldn't go further than she could handle. Another while later she has relaxed a bit with the rules involving her undies and lace kinda even the thong rule. She has grown to the point where she accepts and doesn't mind much with the panties I wear as long as I follow the rules we set together. Most recently we bought a set of PJ's from VS to share, and she has even bought me a couple of pairs and we have been starting to joke together about bras and hosiery. And she has given me a pair of her old jeans to wear as long as I don't wear them around her and other people. She continues to tell me she is scared that she will never accept it as much as I hope and worries that I will leave her because of it. I am always reassuring and I try to make her feel confident that I will always love her. There is always a lot of conversation between us about my fetish and that has made shopping quite enjoyable for us whether online, in the stores, for me or for her. Communicating is very important, and our relationship has been going on for 8+ years now, 6 of them after the note was written.
By:
bsbll2012
Age:
22-25
