Becoming A Dominant Wife

I am naturally bossy in my everyday life. I like things my way and my husband is the same. This has caused conflict in our Marraige over the past few years. Recently, I decided to try something new to see if it would benefit our marriage. I have started being more dominant in bed, and both of us enjoy it. I started by telling him exactly what I was going to do or what he was going to do and he would instantly get an erection. After spankings and ******* him for a change, I figured that maybe I could use this to my advantage. Since he was showing he liked this, I started to use it to get him to do things my way in our everyday life. We both work outside the home and I have always done most of the work around the house. Not anymore. One morning I told him that I would reward him that night in the bedroom if he got all of the housework done after work. I came home that day and it was like a lightswitch went on in his head..his little one I assume. Everything I asked was completed except dinner was not ready like i asked. I told him to get naked and meet me in the bedroom. When he came in I told him to lay face down and tied him to our bed. He was very excited! I then proceeded to spank him really hard. I think he was enjoying it a little to much, so I gave him 10 more s hard as I could. I had to make my point. I told him I appreciated everything he did but my dinner wasn't ready and that is not acceptable. I then got my ******* (the big one) and ****** him hard. It was such a rush of power and I loved it. I think his head was hitting the headboard as he tried to squirm away. When I felt like he had enough, I told him to not miss anything on my list tomorrow. Then I left him tied up for an hour while I watched my favorite program. He has been much better lately, and gets rewarded with spankings and facesittings when he makes me happy. I now have him to the point where he usually does everything for me. I'm thinking that now I may get a chastity device for him to wear so I know I have full power over him and his erections. I think that will minimize the times he forgets to get everything done as he won't be able to *** with me or **********. What do you think? I am still finding my way through this but it has been wonderful so far. Am I being to harsh?