Go Ahead, Walk All Over Me

It's something I've struggled with my whole life.  I just let people walk all over me.  I'm just a really nice person and really afraid of confrontation.  I don't know why I don't stick up for myself.  I'm always the one to back down in an argument, just "agreeing" so the other person will leave me alone.  I don't like hurting people's feelings, even if they deserve it.  If someone calls me a b*tch, I say I'm sorry.  I fantasize nightly about things I wish I had said during arguments were I had given in.  And then I feel like Sh*t because I know that I would never the guts to say any of those things in person.  I feel like I allow people to mentally beat me into submission.  I wish I were more assertive about my needs, but I so often put others before myself.  Why am I not important to myself?  I feel like people take advantage of my kindness. 

BlueWhaleMeatMcFacer BlueWhaleMeatMcFacer
22-25, F
8 Responses Oct 22, 2008

hehe im the same as well.but if someone's being mean 2 you, its alrite to ignore/avoid them. It's arite to be a ***** sometimes. <br />
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But overall, people like you are true friends, and must be treasured-- I dont know how to explain it. Just something about people like that are attractive, when you get to know them :)

I know exactly how you feel. I always imangine things I should have said in arguments or just to someone outside of an arguement. I can never say it to the peoples faces though, it just won't come out.

Hehe... douche douche douche.

Hey, just keep spending time with me...in no time you'll be slapping *******!!! Well, at least making sarcastic insults. . .lol<br />
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:::whispers::: I kill *******. . .

Thanks- I was actually in therapy from about 8 years old to 19... didn't really help much. But maybe there's an assertion training class I could look into or something... that could be good. Thank you JL for getting my wheels turning =)

I'd say it'd be best to get some counseling, betty. It's important that you feel good about yourself and quit letting other peeps control you. <br />
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Good luck~~!!!<br />
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I'm starting to feel like I have nothing else to give. I always seemed to be around "takers." I guess they're attracted to me.

In this world there are Givers and Takers. You just have to limit the number of Takers you get close to because you are a giver.