Why Can't I Stand Up For Myself?
I am a hopeless doormat. I don't know why but I find it hard to say no to people. I can't stick up for myself, and all of this has gotten me into some pretty messed up situations.
Everyone who knows me knows about my doormat problem and some tend to use it to their advantage. My boss will call me in on days I have off or will tell me to come in early or ask me to stay late and it doesn't matter if I am tired or have plans, I can't say no. I feel so horrible even if I only hint that I have something else going on so I always just say yes.
I'm not proud of this at all but sometimes I have done things for men just because I can't say no and I feel awful about even thinking the word. It has never been sex but even some of my guy friends use this against me to get what they want and I can't help it.
I'm constantly afraid of being alone with people or getting to know them because I just don't know how to change it. I've tried so hard and yet I am still exactly the same and I hate myself for it.
I don't know what to do.